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Opening up

  • 29-01-2009 10:10pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,
    I have been going out with my girlfriend now for about 2 months. We were talking this evening about opening up. We both are having problems of opening up and telling important things to each other.
    This has to change fast or its over. I'm not very good at opening up and barely ever do to anyone. I thought I would be able to open up more to her and she thought the same about me.
    Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you.


Comments

  • #2
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    start with your childhood, work your way up.


  • #3
    Princess Consuela Bananahammock
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33,762 ✭✭✭✭Princess Consuela Bananahammock


    It's trust. Trusting each other to be accepting/forgiving. How accepting are you of what he might have to say? He's worried about your reactions as much as you are his, so the best thing is to just say that no matter what he wants to say, you'll still love him. Hopefully he'll say the same to you.

    Everything I don't like is either woke or fascist - possibly both - pick one.



  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi

    Two months is a bit of a short time to need to bare all you know? Fine if you want to divulge your soul to someone but these things take time, the first few months is meant to be a getting to know you time, when you're seeing if you're compatible as a couple. Lots of people want to be at the "I love you" stage and "know" all about each other far too early on I think. Why not just lighten up a litttle bit and enjoy this person for a while. To me, getting to know someone is an enjoyable but lengthy and patience required process which takes years, if you are with someone for ten years, ten years of that is getting to know them, if you try and sum yourself up to someone within a few conversations which divulge facts about you and past stories they may still never truly know you anyway.
    It's not all about being heavy and intense, the light stuff is a great measure of seeing how much someone can take in life too without being too serious. What if theis is the person you'll spend twenty or fifty years with? You still want them to be able to tell you stuff about them you didn't know in fifty years don't you? There's no quick road to intimacy, it takes time. Sorry if I sound prechy but you need to enjoy your relationship and that behind with fun, the heavy stuff will come later. Enjoy it!


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