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Feeling betrayed

  • 29-01-2009 7:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Today I found out that my bf is having a secret email acc and is exchaning emailes with some girl.
    He says it's his old friend and he didn't tell me as he was afraid of my reaction.
    A little bit of background: some time ago we had an issue with him using msn and irc to talk to girls and have cybersex with them, sometimes even calling them to do it. Obviously I wasn't happy at all, for me it was cheating, full stop. We went through rough patch, almost splitting few times. He promised never to do it again, plus to show me his email account whenever I ask for it.
    Now he refuses. Without any explanation. It doesn't even seem that he cared I found out, he didn't offer any comforting words or gesture. I'm afraid that he thinks that I'll forgive him no matter what.
    After previous experience I cannot stop thinking that he actually returned to old habits even though I'd love to believe him.
    I have no problems with him meeting female friends, emailing or txting them. I'd love to trust him in this case too but it's so hard, I can't stop crying and I'm heartbroken. I should probably leave him but I just love him to much.
    Do you think I should trust him again and stay or I'm just naive?


Comments

  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Everyone deserves a second chance.
    For me, you never get a third one.

    You may love him, but if you're miserable and you don't trust that he's changed his ways, what's the point?


  • #3
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    unregistered wrote: »
    Do you think I should trust him again and stay or I'm just naive?

    You never did trust him again, not if a stipulation is he has to show you his email account on demand.

    No amount of love is worth what you're going through. Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't love you back?


  • #4
    Salome
    Closed Accounts Posts: 570 ✭✭✭Salome


    I don't care what anyone says - cybersex is cheating in my book.

    Sorry OP, you're dating an idiot - if you stay with him, you'll end up being hurt and feeling like an idiot.

    Do yourself a huge favour, leave him.


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