Problem in bed

LegacyUser

I recently hooked up with a great girl. She has a kid, a huge kid. The child was 10 Pounds when he was born and things are roomy down below. She has a huge hang up about it and like a moron I promised her everything feels normal. Now, it could be that I am lacking, but this is the first time this has happened, I am used to the sensation of pushing against the tight walls of a vagina and this new sensation is weird. Sometimes after a while I will loose my erection, I don't want to upset her and I certainly don't want to be loosing my boner!

Any advice from the lads or ladies?

Victor

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Faith

Print out an article on Kegel exercises and give it to her. Be tactful and say something like "I know you're a bit paranoid since giving birth. I saw this article earlier and thought you might be interested in it?", or something along those lines.

Santa Claus

Faith wrote: »

Print out an article on Kegel exercises and give it to her. Be tactful and say something like "I know you're a bit paranoid since giving birth. I saw this article earlier and thought you might be interested in it?", or something along those lines.

Is there a tactful way for a guy to suggest she perform exercises to tighten things up downstairs ? I certainly wouldn't have thought so....

Faith

Santa Claus wrote: »

Is there a tactful way for a guy to suggest she perform exercises to tighten things up downstairs ? I certainly wouldn't have thought so....

Well, if he can manage to imply that he has no problems with anything, but knows that she's paranoid and is offering suggestions purely to help with her 'unsubstantiated' paranoia so she can feel more comfortable with herself. It's not an easy task by any means!

LegacyUser

Faith wrote: »

Well, if he can manage to imply that he has no problems with anything

Hi, op here again. I loose my wood. Call me old fashioned, but that is a problem with me, I feel dreadful. Is there anything I can do? (with the emphasis on me)

Thanks a million for the replies.

Aseth

Maybe choosing a position that will make her 'tighter'? not sure what it could be but I'm sure uncle Google does

Wibbs

From behind with her legs together, from the front with her legs together. Both would help. I've not been in your situation and I don't honestly know how I would broach the subject. She may feel this herself too as she won't be feeling the same sensation as before I would imagine. Fair play to you for taking it all on yourself too BTW. As I say hard one to broach.

TheZohanS

You could also try using a smallish sex toy along with yourself to fill the void. It might be a pleasurable sensation for both of you.

Faith

bedtime issue wrote: »

Hi, op here again. I loose my wood. Call me old fashioned, but that is a problem with me, I feel dreadful. Is there anything I can do? (with the emphasis on me)

Thanks a million for the replies.

I've no doubt that it's a problem for you, but I'm guessing you don't want to hurt her by telling her? The only other solution I can think of is to abstractly educate her about kegel exercises. To explain, there's an operation called vaginoplasty which is for women who want to tighten things back up down there. You could, under the guise of passing conversation, say something "Gosh, I heard about this operation today that women get. Can't believe they'd go to so much expense and trouble to get an operation for something that can be solved so easily in other ways" and tell her about kegel exercises if she asks. Although that's a complicated roundabout way.

I don't think there's anything you can do yourself, unfortunately.

LolaLuv

If she has a hang up then surely she must know something's off? Why not just be out with it? I can tell you that's not anything any woman wants to hear, but there are things she can do about it. I'd rather know it was a problem and work on fixing it than think everything was ok and have an unsatisfied partner.

Bottle_of_Smoke

She has a huge hang up about it and like a moron I promised her everything feels normal.

If the kegel thing works then I'm sure she'd love to know about it.

LegacyUser

Thanks a million everyone, wibbs, nice one, will try that.

Its an awkward one folks, made more awkward by other circumstances. We don't get to see each other much, we can't afford to be bogged down with semantics. When I am with her I want to be smiling, laughing, spoiling her, having a special time. There is nothing really admirable about me trying to sort it out my end. She deserves it... Anyway, I won't bore you, but I genuinely appreciate your help.

Nevyn

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

If the kegel thing works then I'm sure she'd love to know about it.

They do and she would have been told about them in hospital after having the baby.