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Really Shy Girl!

  • 27-01-2009 8:58pm
    #1
    SamuelFox
    Closed Accounts Posts: 126 ✭✭


    Hi Guys,

    Has anyone any general advice about dating a very shy girl? I know it’s a life skill that I should have developed by now! I met a really nice girl on Sat night, we got on well and met up again Sunday, but she’s really shy according to her friends and to be honest I’ve never tried to date someone a polar opposite of myself before. We got on fine when we met and are due to meet again this weekend, I presume take it really slowly is the correct tack? Just wondering if anyone has any pearls of wisdom!

    Cheers,

    SF


Comments

  • #2
    littlechick09
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭littlechick09


    hey i would say to take it slow or just wait and see what she is like i do be always shy at the start and when i get comfortable around the person i come out of my shell thats all i could say don't no if that can help you tho


  • #3
    mashling
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 160 ✭✭mashling


    Hey there, my advice would to just be yourself and not to treat her any differently. Being a shy person myself, I find myself more comfortable talking to people who are relaxed, easygoing and willing to talk my ear off. Nothing scares me more than an awkward silence.

    If shes anything like me, after some solid groundwork and a few in-jokes she'l have forgotten all about being shy...

    We're hard work but we make for loyal friends etc.


  • #4
    Censorsh!t
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,121 ✭✭✭Censorsh!t


    Hey. I myself am really shy so from my point of view...

    Dont move too quick, you dont want to scare her off. Dont be too forward, even though you may think its flattering for her...she might not know what to do and not know how to react.

    Make sure to keep up conversation, ask her questions, act interested. I know whenever I'm with someone I don't know too well, I'm sh*ting it and my mind is too clustered for me to think up anything good in conversation :o. Bring up something that you know she's enthusiastic about.
    Don't be scared to think she's not interested if she's very quiet, she's probably just nervous.

    It does suck to be shy and for me...i notice that it seems to be confidence that most guys are interested in, and it's nice to see people making an effort to get to know the shy ones of us:)

    oh and as mashling said...it's nice to have a few of the in-jokes. It really is good for the confidence, once you have her relaxed and having a laugh.


  • #5
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,364 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    Censorsh!t wrote: »
    It does suck to be shy and for me...i notice that it seems to be confidence that most guys are interested in

    Maybe it's because I'm not the most outgoing guy myself but I think shyness is very endearing. I know lots of my friends are the same.

    OP, be progressive but not overpowering. Show interest and don't be tempted to go on and on about yourself even if you think she's interested...


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