Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Have feelings for a girl at work

  • 26-01-2009 7:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I started in this job a few months ago and I have started to have feelings for this girl who I always thought was sound but never really felt attracted to until now The thing is im not the best at asking girls out in the easier settings such as nightclubs or pubs and it would be a disaster to be rejected in this setting because I would have to face her everyday afterwards, what do you think people?should I try and get over it?


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I was in a job for about a year and always said I wouldnt get involved with anybody from work. Then a new girl started who i was instantly attracted to (she was unbelievably hot after all) but being the quiet guy didnt do anything about it and just watched as all the other guys tried their best with her. I didnt talk to her in work but decided to just introduce myself on one work night out. We had a good chat and then just sent her an email the next day with general chit chat. This just built up, seeing each other on work nights and some emails and eventually 2-3 months down the line (im a slow mover) I plucked up the courage to ask her out (we were drunk at this stage, not a chance of me doing it sober). However I did know that she liked me as I got some of the girls i was friendly with in work to find out. If you had a similar way of finding out how interested she is then you should go for it otherwise do it locked so that if she says no you can brush it off as just being drunk!


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I think I may have really messed up a good opourtunity the girl in question asked me what I was doing for the weekend I said I had no plans she said she would text me if she was out I immediately froze and made up some excuse for not being able to go out.The thing is I have very low self esstem issues with my self image and until I sort this out I will never get close to anyone.Did I mess up here?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Unregistered wrote: »
    I think I may have really messed up a good opourtunity the girl in question asked me what I was doing for the weekend I said I had no plans she said she would text me if she was out I immediately froze and made up some excuse for not being able to go out.The thing is I have very low self esstem issues with my self image and until I sort this out I will never get close to anyone.Did I mess up here?

    No, you havent messed up but it does look like she offered you a hand and you didnt accept. She may not be quite so forthcoming next time so now you are gonna have to do the work. Reverse the roles and find out what she is up to next week, if she says nothing just say well I owe you one for not being able to make it last week, fancy a drink? We all suffer from esteem issues in one way or another, just some of us are better at hideing them. The only way to improve that low self esteem is to take chances like this one and if it doesnt work out, dont fret. No need to make a big deal out of it, dismiss is and move on...take the positive from it that at least this time you made the effort and didnt sit back and just beat yourself up over it. Good luck!


Advertisement