Question for the men: Do you like to hear "naughty" talk in bed?

LegacyUser

This is an area where I always feel I have to tread lightly in a new relationship. During sex I like to engage in some naughty talk, though nothing that sounds overly crude...It's always hard to tell if a man would enjoy this or not, especially in a new relationship.

The new BF says he likes it when I asked him. My instincts tell me it might actually make him a bit uncomfortable. So my question is for any men who care to answer: In bed do you like it if the woman does some naughty talking? If so, how far is too far?

Wibbs

Personally I like it if the woman is comfortable with and enjoys it.

Liam Byrne

Never been a fan.....always think it sounds forced and "wannabe porn"......

There's probably been the odd exception [ cue temporary JD-style mental picture followed by "yup, that's one of 'em ], but for the most part it "comes across" as lame...

Maybe it's like Wibbs said, and maybe it's like "sex appeal" itself, that if someone's 100% comfortable with it, and it doesn't seem false or "for the sake of it", then it's cool.....

I'm no expert, though!

Otis Driftwood

Im all for it.I find it adds to the sex.If you can tell your partner if you are particularly enjoying something he is doing then they are less likely to break the rhythm.
Definitly all for it! As was said above though maybe its not for him.

Nevyn

Some do, some don't, not all men have the same preferences.

Rod & Reel

when my wife andi started going out together first we used to do it all the time. it was great fun. still today 13yrs later we bring into the room on the odd ocassion to spice it a little.

best of luck with ur relationship, if u want it to last be honest and upfront with all issues

BanjoSpanner

Very wise to thread lightly with any aspect of a new relationship.

Personally I don't like "dirty" talk. I actually find it distracting, preferring to keep my mind on em ....... well, doing the best job I can shall we say !

But that's just me, I'm sure there are many other men out there who can't get anywhere without a bit of it ..... horses for courses as they say !

Auldloon

Yes i like it. I also like chips but would get sick of them if i had them everyday:)
6 days out of 7 would be about right for me:p
Too far is when he starts laughing or it ruins the mood. Trial and error and as others have said take it slowly, he will hopefully guide you if you watch his reactions.

Max Power1

I like it, once it's not too clichéd sounding (aka cheesy porn like)!!

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

Nope... don't like it at all.

Dragan

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This is an area where I always feel I have to tread lightly in a new relationship. During sex I like to engage in some naughty talk, though nothing that sounds overly crude...It's always hard to tell if a man would enjoy this or not, especially in a new relationship.

The new BF says he likes it when I asked him. My instincts tell me it might actually make him a bit uncomfortable. So my question is for any men who care to answer: In bed do you like it if the woman does some naughty talking? If so, how far is too far?

To be honest, it doesn't really matter what we think. I can only imagine you are hoping more men like it than not and will then feel your boyfriend is comfortable?

All i can say is, if your boyfriend says he "likes it" then this most likely means he "likes it". What may be an issue is that your boyfriend may not have a huge amount of experience with dirty talk, so may simply be getting used to the whole idea.

Seems to me likes you and your fella can chat about this type of thing, which is a great sign. Maybe have a chat where you find out each others sexual boundaries and what you would be willing to explore together?

homerun_homer

I like it, and like a few posters above said as long as it doesn't veer close to OTT porn, cheesey territory. What's great about it is it makes you feel like you are definitely pushing all the right buttons and it can increase my *ahem* enthusiasm.

Dublin_Gunner

The kinkier, the better for me I find it adds greatly to the whole experience, and you can actually find out a lot more quickly what the two of you like each other doing between the sheets!

When you like something, say so, if you want to do something, let him know, and hopefully, your partner will start to do the same.

How about a quick whisper of "do you like it when I talk dirty?" in the ear in the middle of sex?

Although, as stated above, none of the "ich komme!!" "ooh, ya, das is gud!" type of rubbish!

Keep it real, keep it kinky, keep it dirty IMO.

ClutchIt

I love it... and the more like a porno the better seriously. But my current gf doesn't really do it, prob because when we first started going out we never did it cuz we were too nervous. Still tho when she's drunk she does it!!

r3nu4l

As Thaedydal said and as the other posters have said, some like it, others don't. One of the best ways to find out is to start slowly, see if he's happy with it, then let him have a go.

As trust builds you will eventually discover the level he likes. Personally, I like it and it can't really go too far for me but a friend of mine likes it...to an extent. It's all about getting to know your partner.

r3nu4l

As Thaedydal said and as the other posters have said, some like it, others don't. One of the best ways to find out is to start slowly, see if he's happy with it, then let him have a go.

As trust builds you will eventually discover the level he likes. Personally, I like it and it can't really go too far for me but a friend of mine likes it...to an extent. It's all about getting to know your partner.

MagicMarker

To all women.... Do you like carrots?

Some do, some don't is the answer.

Persiancowboy

Hi op

Like most things in any relationship between two people this is a question of finding out what each other are comfortable with. It's clear from many of the replies already posted that some like it and others don't. Personally speaking I find that it's one of the biggest turn-ons. If your BF really likes it you should find that he will encourage you and will probably get into it himself.

Have fun!!!

rondog

Not all the time.sometimes im mentally tired and just want a quick roll in the hay,without having to think of something validly dirty to say.Like how many times and in how many different ways can you say 'youre a filthy b1tch and youre gona get it'(obviously in more creative words)?
Some women have talked dirty and i have to admit theyve said some suspect things,some have given me th fit of giggles and some have really turned me on.Apologies in advance but a girl with a thick culchie accent should NEVER talk dirty

Disssgruntled

Ha?

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Question is too damn vague.

Pointless without a script TBH.

DARKIZE

Only had this experience once, and to be honest I was (1) shocked.....because it was totally out of character for the girl I was with, (2) distracted.....because I couldn't concentrate on the job in hand, and (3) emarrassed....because the lines were so Mitchelstown.

My advice; start a monologue on the benefits of the pedestrianisation of Norwich city centre a la Alan Partridge.

mrmac

Only two opinions matter, yours & his!
I don't think he'll be freaked out by it, especially as he's already says he likes it, or at least doesn't seem to mind it. If it's important to you, explain why, and how it makes you feel. If he is uncomfortable with it, on a regular basis, then perhaps you could suggest "role play" nights, where you can play a "naughty" character?

The important thing to remember, is 1) that your relationship should be "good" for both of you, and 2) it's far better to tell a partner everything you want them to know, instead of waiting for them to figure stuff out, this only leads to mis-understanding.

LegacyUser

Original Poster again...

To be more specific, I'm not into anything that sounds degrading or very Dirty with a capital D.. That's why I used the word "naughty" in my OP.

the "filthy bit*h" that rondog mentioned would be going to far for me. I mean short uncomplicated phrases along the lines of "I'm so wet for you," or "I need your coq in me now" or "OmG it feels so nice when you Eff me like that.." etc etc etc Those are just examples.

But nothing that sounds contrived or like a porn script. Just what naturallly pops into my head in the heat of the moment. The role play thing sounds like something that could possibly be fun but it could also veer into silliness too, and we might end up laughing more than being turned on..though laughter is always a good thing I suppose.

stevelknievel

I'm turned on reading it:). Seriously, what you described works wonders for me. I love that sort of thing, so long as you not constantly talking and forcing it. Nothing too pornesque (New word. I like it) and just what feels right. Fantastic

zuroph

The trick is to be only OK at it. If ur too good at it, Im gonna find it hard to hold it in... If ur too rubbish at it, ul put me off my stroke altogether. Its a very careful balancing act to make sure Im kept at that point where im thinkin "what is she babbling on about now, silly b*tch" but at the same time "Ah f*ck it, its this is awesome". Never one without the other..

In summary, If you wanna buy yourself a few minutes, be very average at dirty talk.

mrmac

Laughter is very definitely a good thing! So what if you make a dogs dinner out of it! Have a laugh, relax, remember you're supposed to be enjoying yourself, not concentrating on "work"!

I was with a partner once, where we decided to mimic a porno movie, she even wrote out the lines from the original film! It took about two weeks to arrange, and I remember it was so cheesy, one scene I had to dress up like a Mexican with a poncho and handlebar moustache, it was a great laugh, and great sex!
Certainly broke down a lot of nerves about "having to perform".

I know it can be a bit awkward with a new partner, and I'm sure you don't want to come across as a looper, but from what you've described, I can't see a problem!
The worse you could say to a man is "...are you in yet?", after that, anything goes