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LegacyUser

basically here's my issue.

went out with this girl when i was younger but we broke up and she went off and got with this other bloke. All well and good.

Fast forward to 2 years ago and i hear from her again she breaks up with him and i end up back with her. however we break up every now and again and this other bloke keeps appearing in the picture even though he cheated on her a few times when they were together. It was always some stupid reason to break up but she'd come back a few weeks later telling me how much she loves me and id take her back.

Same thing happened again recently tellin me she wants me back again and im seriously considering it and i dont know why i am. Deep down on some level i know i love her but she's caused me so much pain and heartache i hate her too. I know this is some conundrum but its really messing with my head. Ive had interest from a other girls but everythin something may happen with them she appears and i lose all interest in them.

I find that this is really affecting me in all aspects of my life... i cant even eat or really enjoy my life. Im evening comtemplating just leaving the country for a while (i.e a goin to new zealand or australia) to get away. I know it sounds a bit extreme and tbh i dont even know what advice im looking for.

Just had to say this.

Wibbs

She doesn't know what she wants. He provides something when he shows up that she wants. Excitement, "spark" who knows what, but he sounds unreliable. You on the other hand reliably take her back each time. It sounds like you're the fall back guy. The safety net, when she falls from his tightrope. Now she can say she loves you all she likes, but it really means nothing. Hey she may even believe it at the time, but love it aint. It's impulsive, lacking respect and not considerate of your feelings.

Break contact. Don't enable this unhealthy behaviour from her in your life. Go traveling if you like, but do it for you. This one sounds like too much emotional trouble.

Adam

agree completely with Wibbs. it sounds like you just haven't had enough seperation from her since the initial break up to allow you to move on with your own life. this is what you really need.

and feck it, go travelling, it's a decent excuse and it will broaden your horizens beyond the point of caring about this soon to be trivial matter

Salome

Don't let loneliness or being a nice guy get in the way here, she doesn't respect you. I'm with Mirror and Wibbs here, go and travel, but only if that's what you want to do, for yourself.

Date other girls but keep away from her - she will just repeat what she's done over and over again. You're worth a helluva lot more.

lolli

Op,

You deserve better than this. She is going back to her ex when he wants her then when he is fed with her shes running back to you. Do you want to be second best all your life? Do yourself a favour and put yourself first.

Pub07

Well this is a simple one, she is showing zero respect for you and its not gonna get any better in future so tell her to f*ck off and leave you alone. Next.