confused/annoyed!

LegacyUser

I'll try to shorten this a bit... Basically a few weeks ago I met an amazing guy who I got on really really well with. He actively persued me, we texted a bit and had loads in common,he invited me out with him and his friends a couple of times and I got on really well with all of them. I was very excited cos it seemed to all be going perfectly. He really genuinely seemed interested in me.
There was a party on this weekend, so a week or so before it I told him about it and he said he'd go. I didn't talk to him then for a week but didn't think TOO much of it cos we're both busy with college stuff and deadlines. I sent him a message a few days before the party asking was he still up for it. He didn't write back so I was really annoyed (he was online on bebo since so could have even sent me a message there if he had no credit). Went on a night out in town then a few nights later and saw him there, just sitting on a chair staring at the ground as if he was totally drunk and/or drugged up. I tried to talk to him but it was just horrible and awkward. He could barely string a sentence together and just didn't seem interested in talking to me at all. Didn't mention the party either. I talked to his friends a bit, not mentioning him or anything, but just general chat, and they were all really friendly to me and didn't really acknowledge the fact that he was such a mess. I actually don't know if he'll even remember that I was there.
Anyway, my head is wrecked now wondering did I do something wrong, or is he just a dick, or even if something happened in his life that made him change all of a sudden. I'm not gonna actively contact him again but I will run into him and will definately be at parties and stuff with him. When I do see him should just be polite to him and not get involved again, or straight out ask him what's up? I feel like it was such a waste of my time getting to know him now if he's just decided for some reason to cut me out. I'm also very curious about what his reason for cutting me out is! Any opinions here?!

Terodil

Simple: ask him.

You don't know what's happened. He may be a druggy but he may also have had a terrible time (accident in family?) - you just don't know. Don't get annoyed/confused, ask him and find out.

Chucky the tree

Terodil wrote: »

Simple: ask him.

You don't know what's happened. He may be a druggy but he may also have had a terrible time (accident in family?) - you just don't know. Don't get annoyed/confused, ask him and find out.

"Hey there, just wondering, why ar you being a **** all of a sudden?" :pac:

I'd just be polite and wouldnt say anything to him. If he's had family issues/whatever he will say it too you if he feels comfortable. If you will get to see him a parties then it's also a chance to see how he usually acts if the drunked mess thing was just a one off or not.

Terodil

hehe. Nah, just "Hey, X, anything wrong? I wonder what's going on...'