Just checking .... one for the girls perhaps ?!

LegacyUser

I'm male and there's a girl I work with, only meet her by chance once or twice a day outside for a smoke and we never pre-arrange it or anything like that. We chat about this and that, all very pleasant. My secret is - I kinda fancy her !

Not sure whether to suggest a drink or what not, and no clue really how she feels towards me. However - one thing I always notice is that if my eyes divert from hers or if I turn my head away slightly in mid sentence, out of the corner of my eye I can always see her looking me up and down .... head to toe. My eyes come back around and hers rise to meet mine again !

Now I'm fully aware that I could be just stark raving mad .... but do you think there's any possibility that, well, she likes what she sees or something ??!

Bit silly perhaps .... but I'll ask anyway. Thanks !

QuestionHead

QuestionHead wrote: »

I'm male and there's a girl I work with, only meet her by chance once or twice a day outside for a smoke and we never pre-arrange it or anything like that. We chat about this and that, all very pleasant. My secret is - I kinda fancy her !

Not sure whether to suggest a drink or what not, and no clue really how she feels towards me. However - one thing I always notice is that if my eyes divert from hers or if I turn my head away slightly in mid sentence, out of the corner of my eye I can always see her looking me up and down .... head to toe. My eyes come back around and hers rise to meet mine again !

Now I'm fully aware that I could be just stark raving mad .... but do you think there's any possibility that, well, she likes what she sees or something ??!

Bit silly perhaps .... but I'll ask anyway. Thanks !

Of course there's a possibility, but there was one anyway whether she was eyeing you up and down or not
I forgot what kind of mental gymnastics we all go through when we fancy someone and want reassurance
there's no way to make it easier OP, either it's obvious they hate you (definitely not in this case) or you need to brave it and ask them out

LegacyUser

I used to go for a smoke now and again and bump into this girl from time to time. Chatted about this and that and yea, i fancied her. One friday I was out having a smoke and sure enough she was there and I just asked her what had she any plans for the weekend, hoping of course she would return the question....she did. I mentioned I was heading out that night and she should come out, we could get to know each other a bit better and asked for her number so that I would let her know where I was if she was interested! It worked cause sure enough she came out and eh yea.....magic happend!!!!

LadyE

Just ask her! Whats the worst that could happen??

purplegeko

You are never going to know unless you put yourself out there, someone has to take the first step be brave!! Speaking from my own experience I prefer it when a guy puts himself out there and asks me out.

LegacyUser

purplegeko wrote: »

You are never going to know unless you put yourself out there, someone has to take the first step be brave!! Speaking from my own experience I prefer it when a guy puts himself out there and asks me out.

But what if he asked you out and you werent in the slightest bit interested! This is the problem, no?

Terodil

Hi OP, before you go down the route: You know the 'golden rule' of 'no relationships in the workplace' right? Rules are there to be bent, sure, but there are a few good reasons why you should think twice about engaging in a relationship at work.

Now that that's out of the way: Ask her for a common lunch or something to start with, keep it casual at first and see how she reacts. You can always try pulling it over into the 'out-of-office'-context later by asking her for dinner, cinema, or whatever floats your boats.

Good luck.

Me to you

Go for it, next oppertunity you get, ask her if she has any plans for the weekend and maye suggest a drink or a movie or something. She might be waiting for you to ask her on a date, i know personally i have never asked a fella out, id always wait for him to suggest something first. Good luck, let us know how it goes...

Salome

I'm with Me_to_you - faint heart never won fair maiden! Go for it!!!