**Mature responses only please** Remembrance ideas?

mrtayto

Hi all,

I'm not sure where to post this thread but I'm going to chance it here. In the last five years I have had 2 very close family members die. I'm looking for ideas to remember/honour them. Something different. Anything I come across has been about planting trees and donating benches and the like, but these were two young,active people, and I would be very grateful for any suggestions.

Thanks in advance

MOD Edit: As the title says, keep the comments mature and somewhat helpful, please.

Mingey

What about a charity of some sort? Something that reflected them?

Biggins

How about a garden stone sundial? Seriously.
Have engraved upon it something like "Time may have parted us, but ye are not forgotten" and have their names added to it too around the edge of the sun dial.

Latchy

Condolances OP .

It's just of the top oh my head .But have you considered making a you tube video of their lives ? You could add informaton such as their achievments in life along with photos of their childhood,teenage years etc then add a piece of music they were fond of .

Sharpshooter

Sorry , to hear that OP.
That's a lovely idea , Biggins.
When mam died , we planted a buddleia bush , and it is an absolute magnet for butterflies in the summer.
It really does lift your mood when you see them, in their hundreds , and so colourful to look at.

Mingey

Sharpshooter wrote: »

Sorry , to hear that OP.
That's a lovely idea , Biggins.
When mam died , we planted a buddleia bush , and it is an absolute magnet for butterflies in the summer.
It really does lift your mood when you see them, in their hundreds , and so colourful to look at.

Thats lovely too. I know you don't like the idea of a tree, OP, but I think trees / plants are great idea. Especially like the explanation above, I can imagine how it must feel to see those butterflies and be reminded of a loved one.

Blisterman

Well, if they are in a sports team, maybe you could arrange a memorial match, for them.
It's not a permanant memorial, but it would be a nice way for people to remember them.

Alternatively, you could donate a perpetual trophy to be given to a different player each year, the XXX Award.

A guy on our Rugby team died recently, who, while not a great player, was very active in organising tours and social events. His dad donated a cup, named after him, for the player each season, who does the most to contribute to the team, the way he did.
I think it's a very nice way to remember someone.

K-9

Yeah, I'd second the sports team/cup idea.

giggsy664

Condolences OP.

Steve

Blisterman wrote: »

Well, if they are in a sports team, maybe you could arrange a memorial match, for them.
It's not a permanant memorial, but it would be a nice way for people to remember them.

Alternatively, you could donate a perpetual trophy to be given to a different player each year, the XXX Award.

A guy on our Rugby team died recently, who, while not a great player, was very active in organising tours and social events. His dad donated a cup, named after him, for the player each season, who does the most to contribute to the team, the way he did.
I think it's a very nice way to remember someone.

Actually, I was going to suggest this when I read the OP.

Even though my father is dead over 20 years, he still gets remembered every year because of a trophy donated in his honour.

seanybiker

latchyco wrote: »

Condolances OP .

It's just of the top oh my head .But have you considered making a you tube video of their lives ? You could add informaton such as their achievments in life along with photos of their childhood,teenage years etc then add a piece of music they were fond of .

thats actually a very good idea. I have seen a few of those kinda videos on youtube and they are done very well. Alot of the comments posted under the videos had lovely things said in them. Its a permanent remembrance.

AlmightyCushion

Blisterman wrote: »

Alternatively, you could donate a perpetual trophy to be given to a different player each year, the XXX Award.

A guy on our Rugby team died recently, who, while not a great player, was very active in organising tours and social events. His dad donated a cup, named after him, for the player each season, who does the most to contribute to the team, the way he did.
I think it's a very nice way to remember someone.

That's a fantastic idea. Also the youtube idea is a good one. Would take a bit of effort to get it right but I'm sure it would bring back some great memories while you are creating it.

@MrTayto - Sorry to hear about that and you and your family have my condolences. Hopefully the people here can help you find something that suits.

ChewChew

OP really sorry to hear that. Hope you are doing ok!

I lost my dad almost 4 years ago when I was 21 and what I did was I took a rose from one of the sprays of flowers and I took a photograph of my dad (a really nice one) and I brought it to malahide castle to a shop called 'crafty fox' and the lovely lady there dried out the rose and put it in a box frame witht he photo of my dad. And I must be honest and say I think it is absolutley FAB! I ccan pm u the phone and ladies name if you like, also I can take a picture if you wanted to see it? I know it sounds soppy but you could get your loved ones favourite flowers and have them dried out and you will have it forever and and put the 2 photos in one frame.

teaholic

Im sorry to hear about what you are going through OP, but for a something for you to do for yourself maybe a tatoo that commemorates your family members?

I know its not everyones cup of tea but I'm getting one for to remember my nana on my hip of pansys because she loved them.

Latchy

seanybiker wrote: »

thats actually a very good idea. I have seen a few of those kinda videos on youtube and they are done very well. Alot of the comments posted under the videos had lovely things said in them. Its a permanent remembrance.

Yeah , I remember seeing some you tube videos such as those you mention .One in particular was of a US marine who died in Iraq .

The memorial stone and having your name on a cup are nice ideas to .

JCDUB

My condolences OP.

My Dad died recently and he was an avid golfer for over forty years, as are me and my brother, so we're arranging an annual competition/outing with a memorial trophy in his honour.

It will hopefully bring together many of his friends, family, golf buddies etc. at least once a year in a celebration of his life.

You say the people you lost were young, so perhaps if they were interested in sport something similar might be fitting in their honour?

Best of luck,

JC

Turncoat

mrtayto wrote: »

Hi all,

I'm not sure where to post this thread but I'm going to chance it here. In the last five years I have had 2 very close family members die. I'm looking for ideas to remember/honour them. Something different. Anything I come across has been about planting trees and donating benches and the like, but these were two young,active people, and I would be very grateful for any suggestions.

Thanks in advance

MOD Edit: As the title says, keep the comments mature and somewhat helpful, please.

Condolences OP. Maybe you could donate something like a computer or books to a children's charity with the name of the people engraved on it. It would not only be a privilege to the children but the people who died would have liked that they helped in contributing to someone's future.

Senna

I really like the youtube idea or maybe just make a website dedicated to their memory, friends and family could add messages and more pictures to it. It would be nice to think of it always being there. I dont think its too hard to set up a simple website, i'm sure people on boards.ie would point you in the right direction.

congo_90

Op i'm sorry for your losses. I'm sure those who have passed will appreciate your rememberence. Perhaps find out what hobbies they had? for example they may have been interested in mechanical stuff etc and then commemorate a plaque on something that would be meaningful like that to them.
Otherwise I think as another poster said, a sundial sounds perfect

I've known people donate a bench to the local hospital (where they spent their last days) to act as a pernament reminder of their loved ones.

Fanny Cradock

Why not plant a tree and put a stone tablet with a few words about your loved ones beside it? You will have the pleasure of seeing the tree grow throughout your life and, long after you are gone, both the tree and the tablet will still be there.

Adiboo

teaholic wrote: »

Im sorry to hear about what you are going through OP, but for a something for you to do for yourself maybe a tatoo that commemorates your family members?

I know its not everyones cup of tea but I'm getting one for to remember my nana on my hip of pansys because she loved them.

+1

Last summer I got a tattoo for my mom, though she hasn't passed away she is in a childlike mindset, living in a nursing home, after cancer affected her brain. I found it a fitting memorial for the mother I once knew.

Also last week I got another tattoo of my nan's favourite ring on my wrist.

As has been said, it's not everybodys cup of tea, but I find it helps me to remember them day to day.

My condolences OP.

ronnie3585

A friend of mine died almost a year ago in an aircraft accident. He was a passionate aviator and our flying club made a trophy to commemorate him, with an aviation theme. I thought it was a great idea as both his friends and family had input into its making. It's a nice way to remember him now and for future years to come. I think a trophy is quite subtle and not too in your face, I find some commemoration services can be a little OTT sometimes.

I like the idea of a sundial too, very original.

sassa

Blisterman wrote: »

maybe you could arrange a memorial match, for them.

This would be a great idea also you could charge entry to the match and donate the money made to a charity they would have liked

mrtayto

Thanks to you all for your ideas and lovely sentiments. I have done some of the things-for example I have a small tattoo on each of my wrists-one is my sisters initials and the other is a liitle smiley face drawing my brother used to always draw, and my brother's bebo page is still active and people leave messages there. I like the sundial idea though, or something similar. Any ideas on where these would be available from?

Thrill

mrtayto wrote: »

I like the sundial idea though, or something similar. Any ideas on where these would be available from?

I know someone who got a sundial for the same purpose a few months ago. Got it at a garden center iirc.

Biggins

mrtayto wrote: »

I like the sundial idea though, or something similar. Any ideas on where these would be available from?

Any stonemason in your locality might be able to help you also.
The base of a sundial don't necessarily have to be stone, it can be of a wooden stand nature with the dial set in it.
This could lower costs considerably.

Alternatively, a good hand carpenter or machinist might be able to construct one also out of hardwood and multi-varnished then.

There are many sites on the net (if a mason/maker needs them) as to construction.

The following are possible examples:

http://www.ehow.com/how_13452_make-sundial.html
http://www.metoffice.gov.uk/education/primary/teachers/sundial.html
http://advanceassociates.com/Sundials/Stained_Glass/TechInfo.html
http://www.sundials.co.uk/projects.htm
http://www.bbc.co.uk/norfolk/kids/summer_activities/make_sundial.shtml

I hope you find something suitable - condolences and all the best from all here on the boards.

galwayrush

Some excellent ideas mentioned above.:cool: I like the sundial and the memorial sports event ideas.Something to celebrate their lives, no matter how short.
My favourite quote from the opening of a Rush song called Afterimage.

Suddenly , you were gone,
from all of the lives you left your mark upon.