Opinions needed please...!

LegacyUser

Hey i'm currently in a relationship with a guy that i am madly in love with. Its been quite difficult for us to get where we are now (took us nearly a year) so i really dont want anything to spoil what we have.
Ok long story short, he takes his phone with him EVERYWHERE! When he goes to the bathroom, when he goes for a shower. I would never peep anyways and ive never done anything to give the impression that i would go nose-ing through his calls and texts.
For example if were in the living room and he goes into the kitchen to get a drink and realises half way between the two rooms he hasnt put his phone in his pocket he will come back, get it, then go back to the kitchen.
Im pretty laid back, he lives with two girls, i dont care that he has lots of female friends, and i even encouraged him to head off to Amsterdam next month with his male friends, that initially he wasnt too pushed about.
The only thing i would have a problem with is if he is texting his last girlfriend. Guess i think that he still loves her even though he has told me that he loves me. Anyways...
My question is, does anybody else have this problem? Is it just a force of habit to take your phone around with you or is it something more?
Cheers in advance.

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Hey i'm currently in a relationship with a guy that i am madly in love with. Its been quite difficult for us to get where we are now (took us nearly a year) so i really dont want anything to spoil what we have.
Ok long story short, he takes his phone with him EVERYWHERE! When he goes to the bathroom, when he goes for a shower. I would never peep anyways and ive never done anything to give the impression that i would go nose-ing through his calls and texts.
For example if were in the living room and he goes into the kitchen to get a drink and realises half way between the two rooms he hasnt put his phone in his pocket he will come back, get it, then go back to the kitchen.
Im pretty laid back, he lives with two girls, i dont care that he has lots of female friends, and i even encouraged him to head off to Amsterdam next month with his male friends, that initially he wasnt too pushed about.
The only thing i would have a problem with is if he is texting his last girlfriend. Guess i think that he still loves her even though he has told me that he loves me. Anyways...
My question is, does anybody else have this problem? Is it just a force of habit to take your phone around with you or is it something more?
Cheers in advance.

Why haven't you asked him yet or at least made a jokey "man you're really attached to that thing" comment yet? It's honestly a bit weird and going back to get it if you realise you've left it in the next room is more than force of habit.

I don't see why you are bringing up the ex? The two subjects have very little to do with each other imo and while I do think the phone thing is weird, it's too much to jump from one to the other

edit: how long are you together, I'm confused on the "nearly a year" part

Salome

Looks like he doesn't want anyone to answer his phone - usually that rings alarm bells with me -I know a man like that and yes, he was having an affair. That doesn't necessarily mean that your bloke is messing about but no one should be THAT attached to a phone.

Me to you

I wouldnt worry about it, just sounds like a force of habit. Alot of people are so used to carrying there phone on them or playing with it. But if its really bothering, i agree with bluewolf above, say it in a joking way if you want to avoid getting into an arguement with him over something thats probably nothing. Best of luck.

G&T

Ask him what the story is,
It would drive me mad if my oh was a sneak.

I know it's "his phone" but you are his girlfriend
not a stranger,what has he to hide from you?

Maybe it's nothing to do with the ex,
but he is sowing the seed's of doubt in your mind,
which is wrecking your head,

Is he just playing game's with you,
making you think he has more options,
acting the big man?

He is acting like an a**hole,

Lillylilly

I'm kinda the same with my phone, and I'm in a longterm relationship with nothing to hide. I just like to have it on me in case I get a call/ text. It's just a personal thing.

Is he on it/ texting quite a lot?? I'm a compulsive texter and don't see my friends a lot cos of where they live so will text a lot throughout the day. It's just handier to have it beside me.
Don't worry about it!!!

Also, get over the ex thing- he's WITH you!!!!

pfishfood

Its just a force of habbit i have the samething myself. For me i hate missing calls. If your very concerned about his ex talk to him about it and tell him your fears but as it was already said in this thread hes with you now

wylo

He doesnt want you seeing the phone , thats definitely more than a force of habit to go back and get it. HOWEVER, theres a million reasons for him not to want you to go through it, are you sensitive to porn perhaps? Or maybe texts between him and his mates. Or maybe innocent texts between and any other female friends he has, basically anything that could cause hassle if you were to read it. Tbh I feel uncomfortable other people looking at my phone , I dont know why but I just do. I know your his gf so perhaps you should casually mention, just say 'jeez you take your phone every with you!!'

LegacyUser

The fact that he turns back if he forgets it would be ringing alarm bells with me tbh. It could be that it's just force of habit but that seems a bit odd. My ex was like that (so I'm prob a little biased here), wouldn't leave the phone unattended... and it turned out he was actually texting his ex, early in our relationship. Then late in the relationship, he admitted to texting some random girl he'd met somewhere he'd worked. Those are the ones he admitted to.

And... he was texting me for a while after we broke up and he was with someone else - although only as friends because we'd said we'd stay friends. I don't know if it was just an ego thing or a friend thing or if anything actually did happen with these girls...

You probably won't be at ease til you find out one way or another. Ask him out straight, and watch to see if he gets defensive.

wylo

Another thing to add OP that might make you feel better is that I doubt he'd be stupid enough to leave the messages in his phone in the first place if he was going through that much effort to make sure you dont see it.

Kirnsy

tell him exactly how you feel and if he's in anyway decent or genuinely not texting someone else he'll give you his phone on the spot.