Opinions Appreciated

LegacyUser

I've been a long time lurker in PI and would appreciate some opinions. Just some background to give you some context.

I was very happily married, planning a great future with my lovely husband, when he had a sudden heart attack and died. I've been widowed for almost 2 years now and it has been difficult ... good days and bad. In recent months, I've been feeling miuch more like myself and tentatively thought about getting back on the dating scene. As I'm in my late 30s and not really into the pub/club scene, I decided to have a go with online dating.

It has been quite fun .. chatted with loads of very nice guys and have met up with a few. They've all been great, but I haven't sparked with any to date. This hasn't put me off and I just put it down to experience and moved onto the next.

Anyway, to get to the crux of my issue ... I was contacted by a guy a couple of weeks ago. He seemed very genuine, gave me loads of background info on his background etc. We emailed and texted back and forth and then he asked me to meet him this evening. I agreed and said I'd leave the arrangements with him as he asked me to meet him in his town which I don't know very well. And that's been it ...nothing since! I texted him on Monday to see if all was ok and no reply. I guess this isn't a huge issue, but I'm just so annoyed at how rude his behaviour his. Why go to all that trouble emailing, texting and inviting me to meet him, only to then ignore me? I'm very tempted to email and ask why, but I'm afraid to look like some mad stalking bunny boiler! So, my question is, should I contact and ask why, or just walk away with my head held high (which I know is the right thing to do!)?

Opinions good and bad would be appreciated.

cantdecide

Yuck. I think your fears may be right. The head held-high-plan is probably the best and only approach I'm afraid. I think he got a better offer so call it a lucky escape:(

Harris

Could be a million explanations, most likely one is that he's married. Sorry if I sound cynical but been there done that with the online dating thing and it is a complete waste of time. Takes over your time and life and it's actually confusing trying to remember who's nice and who isn't and therefore you end up re-reading all previous messages etc. etc. etc. Rant over! I am sure you will meet someone nice somewhere!:cool:

louisecm

I'd leave it. Any explanation would probably be BS anyway, and you deserve better than his messing!

I'm really sorry to hear about how difficult the past couple of years have been for you by the way, you must be incredibly strong. Best of luck, I'm sure you'll find love again, don't give up on it.

Salome

I agree with Harris - he's more than likely married. In my experience, many of the men who use online dating are more often than not are looking for "afternoon fun, no strings attached".

I do think you should just put this one down to experience - the next man who contacts you may be the one who deserves your interest.

And, I must say, you're an inspiration for thinking of your future - you're far too young to be alone.

Me to you

Run a mile sweetie. I wouldnt give him the satisfaction of wasting anymore of your time than he already has. Anyways im sure you dont want to hear his bs excuse anywho.
Good luck in the future though.

LegacyUser

OP here - thank you for your replies - it's much appreciated! I guess I was looking for reassurance and I got it here. Head held high is definitely the way I'm going .. you live and learn!

louisecm

Good woman.

Salome

Good on ya OP - you've got to kiss a lot of frogs and all that! Don't be put off by it though. They're not all like that!