Constantly down

LegacyUser

I don't really know what to do with myself anymore. I constantly feel like crap, I'm doing my leaving cert this year and I feel like i'm doing so terrible at everything.

Also living at home is really driving me insane. My father is a big dope head and he digusts me. he picks fights constantly and i hate being at home.

I put on this facade when i'm with my friends they think i'm a really happy person, which isn't the case all the time.

I've got a wonderful boyfriend of 1 1/2 years and he's really the only person i can talk about my problems to, but i feel like i am pushing him away because of my outbursts of sadness, i don't think he can handle them much more. I've become a really irritable person and not very pleasant to be around.

But the only time's i feel happy is when i'm with my boyfriend, or abroad. just to get away from this sh*thole country and all the stress it brings with it.
I don't know what advice i want, i just don't wanna loose my bf.
help?

Otis Driftwood

Hi OP.The first thing you should do is try and get to speak to someone impartial.Obviously when you are leaning on your B/F alot it does put added strain on your relationship.You are lucky to have someone that you can open up to,it really is a big help.My advice would be talk to a school counsellor if you have a good relationship with them.Alternatively talk to a priest.Now Im not religous in the slightest but alot of em have led hard lives and always give a more balanced opinion.Ive had my down periods(as alot of people do) and talking it out with someone not associated with you directly really does help.They can give some perspective.In the short term try doing something you really enjoy like going to the gym,cooking or whatever to keep you occupied.Hope you feel better soon.

Concentrate on finishing your leaving, get that over and done with and then think about heading abroad.

You could head to Canada, US or Australia and get a working visa and have a whole different life.


Im currently arranging to go to Canada for the summer, work for a bit and have fun.

I cannot way to get away from things here.

Snowie

Hey Op your school should have a counciller maybe go have a chat with her/him, they can useually give you some good advice. I remeber back when i was your age even younger it was difficult to talk to them as i felt embarrissed and just well plain odd really but it's a positive step as in your not laydening your boyfriend with all your problems etc....

I hope this helps...:)

sunnyside

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But the only time's i feel happy is when i'm with my boyfriend, or abroad. just to get away from this sh*thole country and all the stress it brings with it.
I don't know what advice i want, i just don't wanna loose my bf.
help?

Going abroad doesn't always fix problems, when the novelty of living under a blue sky eventually wears off people can find themselves as unhappy as they previously were. I'm not advising you to stay at home though, you're young and travelling is always good.

Be careful not to get too dependant on the boyfriend, you could be coming across as needy or emotionally demanding and he's probably too young to be able to cope with that.

The Leaving Cert is definitely causing some of this stress. The bad weather these last few days isn't helping either, everyone seems to be in a bad mood.

CDfm

A very brave post and you sound like a smart kid and can tackle this if you put your mind to it.Things always look awful after Xmas and thats worse if you are facing the mocks and not prepared.

Thats very good advice to go to the school councellor or even your class tutor.It is normal not to get on with your parents and if they do dope is fairly smart.

If your parents arent providing the guidance/support then thats where the councellor or tutor comes in. Its not a priveledge -its a right so you should ask for it- go to the principle for help if you have to.

6 months is loads of time to get ready for the leaving cert .Study aids like "Less Stress More Success" are books you can get for each subjectand do a shortened version of each subject.And if your parents wont get them ask the school.In fact ask the school about getting them first.

Its great you have a boyfriend to take your mind of the problems. But its also important to get what you want which is a reasonable Leaving Cert.

Have a real go and you will be surprised what you can do and each thing you do well at means you have a better chance of getting away from the situation you are in.

Best of luck and the harder you work at it then the luckier you will be.