Question for lads!

LegacyUser

Question for the lads about the role your mates play when you're on the pull (so to speak, terrible phrase that!)

Anyways, I'm a 22 year old (shy!) bloke and was out for drinks with the usual crowd on Friday - in the local with a bunch of mates, their mates and tag-alongs. The place was jammed so we were sprawled around a couple of tables, chatting away, I found myself beside some girl I hadn't met before - friend of a friend.

Now I wasn't particularly attracted to this girl, but we were bantering away and the drinks were going down pretty good, when I figured she was flirting with me...put her hand on mine, resting her head on my shoulder, whatever - forward enough behaviour for someone I had just met.

So for a second I considered maybe making a move...but kinda thought better of it, as we'd both had a few drinks and it would've been very much 'just for the sake of it' (and I'm not outgoing like that). So I casually started chatting to other friends, and after a while she ended up leaving with the girl she had come with.

But as soon as she left, my mate says "Tell me you did NOT score that mess" (or words to that effect - crass, I know, but sometimes lads are!). And I told him, no, we were just talking. Now sorry for going on and on, but my question is this: Have you ever met a girl you have considered throwing the lips on, but thought better of it because your mates would rip the piss out of ya?

Cheers lads/lasses

Max Power1

This is one, that i (as a guy) never understood. You're telling me that you would not kiss/go home etc with someone that you fancy but your mates dont?? I dont know about you, but I decide who I get with, not my mates.. and i dont pass remarks about who they get together with for that matter:rolleyes:

Húrin

Unregistered wrote: »

Now sorry for going on and on, but my question is this: Have you ever met a girl you have considered throwing the lips on, but thought better of it because your mates would rip the piss out of ya?

No, you spineless jellyfish. Never mind what your friends' judgement on a girl you like is.

Local-womanizer

Moments I have had this thought!

In the end I end up thinking "feck them,its not there shift!"

Iang87

i would have anyway if it was me because i wouldn't care what they say.

I can see why you wouldn't cos you kept sayin you're shy so you didnt want your friends slaggin you and it wouldn't be lik you to slag back. i reckon you normally sit back and enjoy the banter rather than get directly involved.

Cos of that i dont think its you bein shallow or anythin like that i'd say if it was the two of ye alone you'd definitely have went for it and i dont think that makes you a bastard

better hope she doesn't read this tho maybe it'll ring a bell and then she'll think you're a bastard and tell her friends you are. Vicious circle really

Bottle_of_Smoke

Sometimes if you're drunk and horny, you know a girls flirting and easily available, but you know you won't be interested in the cold light of day - it might influence your decision

A girl you actually like, no, mates opinion wouldn't matter then

There's an old joke that sums up your question "what have fat girls & mopeds got in common? - Both fun to ride until your mates find out"

LegacyUser

Hang on, the OP said "Now I wasn't particularly attracted to this girl"; so you're all being a bit harsh !

LegacyUser

Húrin wrote: »

No, you spineless jellyfish. Never mind what your friends' judgement on a girl you like is.

Spineless Jellyfish...oh the tautology! (Knowing the meaning of words like 'tautology' has never gotten me laid, not even once.)

I never said that I liked her...I dunno, I just entertained the notion. I sometimes wonder if I, being shy and somewhat inexperienced, miss something blatantly obvious.

Zaph

Húrin wrote: »

No, you spineless jellyfish. Never mind what your friends' judgement on a girl you like is.

Húrin banned for 1 week for personal abuse.

Chucky the tree

It wouldnt put me off at all. I'd say nearly every guy has scored someone who they thought was pretty rotten, especially when drunk.

also there's nothing wrong with scoring someone just for the sake of it, it might help you with the confidence/shyness.

Darragh29

Unregistered wrote: »

Question for the lads about the role your mates play when you're on the pull (so to speak, terrible phrase that!)

Anyways, I'm a 22 year old (shy!) bloke and was out for drinks with the usual crowd on Friday - in the local with a bunch of mates, their mates and tag-alongs. The place was jammed so we were sprawled around a couple of tables, chatting away, I found myself beside some girl I hadn't met before - friend of a friend.

Now I wasn't particularly attracted to this girl, but we were bantering away and the drinks were going down pretty good, when I figured she was flirting with me...put her hand on mine, resting her head on my shoulder, whatever - forward enough behaviour for someone I had just met.

So for a second I considered maybe making a move...but kinda thought better of it, as we'd both had a few drinks and it would've been very much 'just for the sake of it' (and I'm not outgoing like that). So I casually started chatting to other friends, and after a while she ended up leaving with the girl she had come with.

But as soon as she left, my mate says "Tell me you did NOT score that mess" (or words to that effect - crass, I know, but sometimes lads are!). And I told him, no, we were just talking. Now sorry for going on and on, but my question is this: Have you ever met a girl you have considered throwing the lips on, but thought better of it because your mates would rip the piss out of ya?

Cheers lads/lasses

Haha! Usually its after the fact and your getting the slaggin for doing it!

minidazzler

In all honesty, I have scored some of the Not so nice looking girls, If I am out and just want a score, I will take whoever is offering, Shallow and low, I know, but still, a score is just for a laugh. When my mates mock me, I get to go on a rant.

"I scored, you didn't"
"I scored, your GF is living in Dublin"
"So what if she wasn't good looking, it was good fun."


I am the king of PaP competitions, I never lose them.

So if your that worried about what your mates think, you seem very insecure. Sure, they will mock ya, but it's just a bit of slagging, just mock them back about something!!!

petethebrick

If I really like a girl the no - couldn't give a **** what any of the lads think.
If I'm contemplating scoring a minger/fat girl just to get the leg over then yes - I'll try and be discreet about it and hope not to get seen by all and sundry

3DataModem

Unregistered wrote: »

But as soon as she left, my mate says "Tell me you did NOT score that mess"

[x] Friend is a jerk
[?] Friend is jealous you were getting attention
[x] You will regret this some lonely day in the future

MagicMarker

Your friend would have scored with her if he had the chance.

I wouldn't worry about it.

Gone Drinking

Yes, it happens all the time. I slag my mates if they're with some minger, they'd slag me if i did it. Thats how young adult males act, its called fun.

As you grow a little older, your friends will realise none of them are perfect and i guarantee one of the lads will end up marrying a minger.

cantdecide

I'd only be concerned it someone told me that she was promiscuous/ likely to cheat...

I wouldn't be swayed if my mates took the piss me over her weight or if she was a minger etc. I wouldn't care.

davmol

my mates are slagging b*stards,theyd find the slightest thing wrong about a girl and slag eachother over it.If we all took it seriously i wouldnt be with my GF now nor would about 10 other lads even have GFs.....lads will give u stick 1)for teh craic 2)jealous they didnt pull ,so dont take it seriously unless she has a beard or loks like sommet from star trek