What should I do?

LegacyUser

I work with somebody who nearly over a year ago revealed that yes there was an attraction between us. This person is married so nothing could happen. They also have a lot of other personal problems. I've tried being supportive and a friend,although this has been more difficult since I discovered a few months ago that they had made a vicious complaint about me. I was never told this officially. This has made work harder and my health has suffered. I know the obvious solution is to get another job but that is easier said then done and I don't see why I should go. We used to text each other a lot then we stopped and now this other person is sending me texts at the weekend and waiting for me after work. Am I being paranoid or do they just want to be friends? I'm finding it very hard to trust them since I learned about that complaint. In a way I wish somebody had come and said something it would be better than this pain. Is it possible to completely forgive and forget?

Latchy

Am I reading this right ? Somebody ( they) made a complaint about you at work then shortly afterwards wants to become friends , waiting for you after work ,sending you texts ? What was the complaint ( without details) why would they do that and more importantly ,why do they now want to become friends with you ? Very strange imo .I would avoid this person .

Salome

This person sounds like a bunny-boiler, keep your distance - they sound pretty dangerous. What was the nature of the complaint made about you?

LegacyUser

They said that I often thought I was in charge. That other people did not like me and that they were late sending in reports because they were doing my work. Which was untrue this person was often absent due to personal reasons. Our supervisor would not have been aware of this.

Salome

There's a reason in itself to stay away - bunnyboiler in the extreme...

Bligh

OP this guy sounds strange and perhaps a bit dangerous; I would make your position clear. Keep your relationship with him professional; be clear that you don't wish to communicate with him outside working hours. It is best to be direct and succinct, don’t run away or try and look for another job, why should you have to move because of his insecurities.