Am I right to feel heart broken?

LegacyUser

Hey,

With a great girl the past year. Known her about 5 years before we got together and were really close mates who shared everything together.

I had a major relationship before her lasting 3 years. When me and my ex broke up she was there for me and a year later we hooked up.

She had always told me that I was her first sexual experience. She had told me before about a drunkin night when she was scoring some guy she knew and ended up having oral sex with him.

Last week her phone broke and she asked me to transfer everything to her new phone. While doing I saw some texts on her phone. They were between her and her mate (male) who had known each other years.

In a text he asked her what her first sexual intercourse was - she said it was this guy down an alley on a drunkin night out and said it was great.

I feel broken hearted that she lied to me and even got upset if I mentioned this other guys name before.

Am I right to feel totally broken hearted about this?

Peewee_lane

Maybe she was boasting, we all make things up now and again.

I know things can hurt when you love someone so much, so this is going to be new for you. Breathe and stop letting it take over all your thoughts, let this go to a certain extent.

When was the message sent? Was it old?

Maybe she cares for you so much she didnt want you to know her first ride was down an alley and not on a bed of roses?

LegacyUser

Peewee_lane wrote: »

Maybe she was boasting, we all make things up now and again.

I know things can hurt when you love someone so much, so this is going to be new for you. Breathe and stop letting it take over all your thoughts, let this go to a certain extent.

When was the message sent? Was it old?

Maybe she cares for you so much she didnt want you to know her first ride was down an alley and not on a bed of roses?

Text was sent last week. I knew everythong that happened except she was adament she did not have sex with him

Faith

Maybe she was just lying to the friend because she didn't want him to know that she'd only been with one person? Silly, yes, but people get funny about their sexual history. Plus, from a logistics point of view, I'd imagine having sex down an alley (presumably standing) with a stranger probably wouldn't be that easy, physically, for a virgin.

lilminx

Hey OP

I understand why you're hurting right now but take a step back and re-read your own words as you describe your relationship with this girl. I agree with Peewee on this one. It's not anything to break up over but maybe have a little heart to heart about how you feel right now. But look at the bigger picture and remember that you care deeply for her. We all need reassurance from time to time.

Weidii

Sounds like she was lying to him and not you.

LegacyUser

Weidii wrote: »

Sounds like she was lying to him and not you.

I dont think so - actually I think its the other way around

MagicMarker

Heart Broken wrote: »

She had always told me that I was her first sexual experience. She had told me before about a drunkin night when she was scoring some guy she knew and ended up having oral sex with him.

I'm confused...

Which part are you heartbroken over? The fact that she may have lied to you, or the fact she had sex with a stranger in an alley? Or the fact that you weren't her ''first sexual experience''? Which isn't the case anyway if the above statement is true!!

I'd be more concerned about a guy asking my girlfriend about her sexual experiences tbh.

Karen_*

MagicMarker wrote: »

I'd be more concerned about a guy asking my girlfriend about her sexual experiences tbh.

+1

Yes you do have a right to be upset about the content of the text and all it implies but what on earth is she texting this bloke about it all for?

Salome

Karen_* wrote: »

+1

Yes you do have a right to be upset about the content of the text and all it implies but what on earth is she texting this bloke about it all for?

Yeah, I'd be concerned that she's in touch with him tbh...