how will i find new girlfriend?

LegacyUser

i broke up with my girlfriend about 4 months ago. Since then i had about 4 one nite stands i got the girls numbers but never bothered with then i dont know why but i do want to be in another relationship they just dont seem to be good enough dont know what to do don't want to end up alone

LegacyUser

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i broke up with my girlfriend about 4 months ago. Since then i had about 4 one nite stands i got the girls numbers but never bothered with then i dont know why but i do want to be in another relationship they just dont seem to be good enough dont know what to do don't want to end up alone

They are not good enough for a relationship but ok for one night stand?

MagicMarker

Unregistered wrote: »

i broke up with my girlfriend about 4 months ago. Since then i had about 4 one nite stands i got the girls numbers but never bothered with then i dont know why but i do want to be in another relationship they just dont seem to be good enough dont know what to do don't want to end up alone

One step at a time.

Step 1.

Learn all about punctuation. Then and only then will you be capable of asking a girl to go out with you.

Why do you think you're going to end up alone, why the need to be in a relationship?

m'lady

Well the only way you will find a new girlfriend is by changing your attitude. If you can go and sleep with 4 girls who are not good enough to be your girlfriend, but good enough to sleep with, then in my opinion the problem lies with you. you also sound a bit desperate in your post, 'needing a new girlfriend', go out and meet up with your mates and have fun and dont pass off this desperate attitude.


P.S. Magicmarker I fail to see what the op's writing skills have to do with the question he asked or his ability to attract a potential girlfriend.

cantdecide

You're doing the right thing putting yourself out there but you have to over ride that voice that says it won't work. You need to try to get to know some of these girls before you dismiss them out of hand and you probably need to ask yourself are you just bedding girls that are easy (or also looking to use you- one-night-stands are a 2 way thing) *runs for cover*

If you want something meaningful, you have to stop falling into old habits of going out pulling and waking up th next day, unfulfilled.

Zascar

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lilminx

I agree with the other posters on this OP. If you are looking for a long-term meaningful relationship, then one night stands ain't the place to start. If these girls are 'good enough' to sleep with but not to have a date with to even see if there is something more there then do both sides a favour and leave well enough alone.

Also, if you're only out of a relationship a few months, are you ready to move on to the next? Maybe do as m'lady suggested and leave off on the search for Ms Right or Ms Right Now and just enjoy your life as it is for a while. As my mother always said "It'll come along when you're NOT looking." Just relax about it and don't be so hard on yourself or others.

Karen_*

4 one night stands in 4 months is a bit much. Have a bit of respect for yourself and for others and then you might find you've more to offer a new girl. Don't just jump into things for the sake of a relationship and I'm sure all those girls were 'good enough' but just that they weren't right for wonderful you.

Piste

Maybe somewhere in the back of your head you think girls that have one right stands are slappers and so aren't good enough for you? So maybe stop having one night stands and just get girls' numbers before you sleep with them and let a relationship progress naturally without jumping into bed with them. Then you might respect them more and they might be "good enough".

PCPhoto

I know others have hinted or even said it ..... but ..... maybe the problem isnt that the other girls aren't "good enough" .... you haven't given any of them a chance...... the problem is then ..... YOU !


Take the time to sit back - look at your life ? what exactly are you looking for in a partner/girlfriend ? and ....... why ?

if you go out ..... meet these girls, enjoy the flirting/chatting .... get the number , and if you goto their place or they goto yours ... ask if its ok if they don't have sex....see if you can go 5dates without having sex.... (if you want - include the first contact as a date) .

Me to you

Why the rush to be in a relationship? Everything happens for a reason and you are at your most attractive when you're out with friends and just having a good time, live it up. If its meant to be it will be, while your waiting you might as well get some quality time in with the boys.

andyournameis

Dude...... What are you doing??? You are never going to get anywhere if you acting like that... Why don't you try and be on your own for a while... You don't have to find a girl asap do you??? Enjoy being on your own for a while

CDfm

4 months isnt long - but you are not giving these girls a chance.

Why not invite one to the zoo on saturday or sunday and see how comfortable you are spending an afternoon with someone.

Its just a social thing -but you might be surprised and like it;)

kittensoft1984

Hi OP,

4 months is nothing. Why are the girls not good enough for you?

Like someone said, maybe you think that girls who sleep with you are slappers? Why do you sleep with them anyway? To prove that you are over your ex? Or to prove something to yourself?

Take some time out and find out what you want first and then go and date girls. Also dont go looking for a girlfriend....it wont happen that way

Best of luck