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Having too many girlfriends/boyfriends "on the trot"

  • 16-01-2009 11:44am
    #1
    turgon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,762 ✭✭✭


    This isnt as serious as the other topics, so excuse me if it seems a little lame, but this has been running around my head for a while. Basically Ive become really self conscious lately of going out with different girls after one another, with not much of a break in between. About a 3 or four weeks ago a girl I was with 3 or 4 months broke up with me because she didnt like the idea of being "tied down", which is something we had talked about on a few occasions. Because I had been in a really long relationship before, and Im so young, she made me feel as if I was "addicted to commitment" or something.

    Only about a week after I met this girl out. I was really impressed with her because we had a few discussions about music and all that. However I didnt really want to start texting her, only because I had only been out of a relationship, but she gave me her number. I decided not to proceed, but my friends said my reasonimg was absolutely stupid, so I text her, and shes such a nice personality and a great texter, and weve met up a few times since both on our own and on nights out with friends.

    Then the other night my buddys were going (in front of her) are you going to ask her to be your girlfriend, and I got the impression that she wanted it. Now even if it werent for all that "history" I wouldnt have asked her out yet because we only know each other a short while. But I can imagine myself doing it pretty soon, and now this thing nags me at my mind that Im jumping into a new relationship after only being out of an old one. And if kinda feels like being with her means less and less because its not as if I have rarely been with girls. Like theres nothing special about it you know. And Im starting to be concerned about this, that Im moving around too fast, even though I know that the new girl is just so nice.

    Is this just being stupid?

    PS - sorry about the long post & if im not that clear :o


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  • #2
    RossFixxxed
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭RossFixxxed


    Do you know why you keep jumping? Are you bailing out of good relationships due to fear? Do you feel a need to be in one at any given time?

    Will this next one be any different?

    Only you really know why you do this...


  • #3
    Wagon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Wagon


    There's two sides to this.

    GOOD:
    you want to go out with this girl cos she's an attractive, sound bird who you get along with and who gets aong with your mates. You have a great laugh with her and you want to keep it going in the future. you only feel reserved because you feel you should be.

    BAD:
    You are pining for an ex girlfriend and are getting into a relationship on the rebound.

    I think you fall into the GOOD catagory. You seem to get along well, you have no mention of having feelings for your ex and so this would lead me to believe that you only feel reserved because society thinks that it's too quick to jump into a relationship. I hear it all the time, people going on the rebound etc... It's not the case with you though.

    So from what i could gather from your post, I'd advice go for it when your ready. Feck what others think. If you like this lady and she likes you then I don't think there'll be a problem. I got with my current girlfriend after a month out of a relationship. And I'm happy as larry! So relax and enjoy :)


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