Relationship opinions

shivkk06

hi,

ill keep this short as possible but any opions would be greatful as im at a major loss.

Bout 10 months ago i started dating a guy, everything was great at start. We moved into together, then he started having to stay away for work, first night here n there, then longer periods.

When our 6 months lease was up he was supposedly working in galway, so to save money i moved in with friend n he was staying in his dads. Oh i never met family or friends. But then he rarely came down when he was meant to. I asked him straight did he want to end it r had he someone else he swore blind he hadnt, Uncertainty of job was his prob

Christmas he supposedly spent abroad with his kid. But on sat last he was meant to come down n didnt I rang text etc since sat night i have not heard a word.

Was I a fool n just been played n he had someone else all along? At same time i still worried i something happened as i said never met friend family etc so have no one to contact

Wibbs

Understandable worry. Since Saturday no contact from him? Did you have an argument recently? Has he been distancing himself recently? Given that he seems to have pulled this disappearing act before, who knows what's going on. Sadly since you don't know any of his mates or family(which after 10 months is just a bit dodgy to say the least), there's not a lot you can do, but wait and of course worry.

If I were you I would honestly tell him to take a long walk off a short pier and no mistake. You've lived with this guy and yet he doesn't seem to be including you in his life to the degree he should. It doesn't sound healthy IMHO.

jim o doom

From how you describe his actions; he is either trying the cowardly method of breaking up OR he has another beau (and may have had all along) and is just stringing along & seeing how much of his fluting around you are willing to take.

Ring him up, call him what he is (a runt or something that rhymes with that word that is) & finito with him would be my advice..

Even if both of my suggestions are wrong (which I think is unlikely) he is still playing you on some level which suggests he doesn't feel very strongly for you, and that's not the sort of relationship anyone wants to be in..

not yet

I will never,ever understand why people let themselves be treated like this.

You really need to confront him, would he take it if you were doing the same....?

shivkk06

jim o doom wrote: »

From how you describe his actions; he is either trying the cowardly method of breaking up OR he has another beau (and may have had all along) and is just stringing along & seeing how much of his fluting around you are willing to take.

Ring him up, call him what he is (a runt or something that rhymes with that word that is) & finito with him would be my advice..


I have tried to ring, he will not answer phone

Even if both of my suggestions are wrong (which I think is unlikely) he is still playing you on some level which suggests he doesn't feel very strongly for you, and that's not the sort of relationship anyone wants to be in..

I am off the opinion its over now and really dont think i want to hear from him as the explanation would prob be a lie

not yet wrote: »

I will never,ever understand why people let themselves be treated like this.

You really need to confront him, would he take it if you were doing the same....?

as I said earlier I have spoken to him on this and he reassured me there was none one else and nothing for me to worry about, he wanted us to have a future together. I cant confront him now as I dont know where he is

kittensoft1984

OP,

it sounds like he was trying the cowardly way of ending it. A few hours or even a day without contact is fine....but its been nearly a week....

I agree with Wibbs on the not meeting the parents front.....after 10 months that is just a little bit weird.....

It seems like he didnt want to include you in his life.

I think its time to cut your losses and tell her where to go and find someone who will treat you right and with a bit of respect.

Oryx

Consider it over. Even if he gets in touch. Because the relationship you have had up to now does not sound normal. It sounds like him telling you only as much as he needs to about himself and hiding a whole heap he doesnt want you to know. Without trust, you cant continue a relationship with someone, and clearly trust is lacking with him.

Also, any man who claims to love ya, but dissappears without trace or contact for a WEEK needs to be kicked to touch, (unless hes been kidnapped or something :rolleyes:).