Mentally Broken

LegacyUser

Mentally Broken

Don’t know where to start with this, but just looking for some help as I am shattered.

When my brother was 11 he was diagnosed with a very serious and rare form of brain tumor. He is the youngest in the family and this was a major shock to the family. We thought our world had ended and it was such a hard time for us all. Very stressful for us. He spent over a year in a hospital bed and really things didn’t look good. My mother was the heart and sole of the family during this time, she is so strong. She basically lived in the hospital with him during all the threatment, and my god did he have a lot of treatment. I was in college when he was diagnosed. Because if his years of fighting this cancer, his growth was hindered and he will be bald for the rest of his life. He is now 17 and it really is a miracle that he is still with us.

6 years on and believe it or not life I the family has started to go back to the way it was. But yesterday I was told that my mother has been diagnosed with breast cancer. To say this has hit me like a truck is not even close. The woman who held us together and who lived with my brother through all the sickness, has to start 2009 fighting for her life now.

I don’t know what to do, having gone through the affects of cancer already was testing enough but I have to do it all over again.

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I have no words that can sum up how much I feel for you right now.

The only advice I can give is to be strong, take the strenght your mother showed before and use it.

Also maybe you will find that writing will help, maybe this thread, everyday come on and write how your feeling, get it all out.

Im sure there will be people here who have been through experiences and can help to talk to them.

I wish you and your family well through this time.

St Bill

OP, you only found out yesterday. You're probably still in shock after hearing the news. Give yourself a chance, be good to yourself. You'll be as strong as you were when your brother was diagnosed. Your mother is a very courageous woman to have gone through the illness of her son, and to keep the family going....but you can be sure that every member of your family (including you) had a part to play in keeping things going.
Take each day as it comes, you'll find the strength to cope. I wish you all the best

kittensoft1984

Hi OP.

I am sorry to hear you news. Like St Bill you only found out yesterday, you are more than likely still in shock.

It is amazing how much strength you have when it really comes down to it.

You will cope. You really need to take one day at a time.

I am going through something similar, Pm if you need to chat

Best of luck

LegacyUser

I know this doesn't help at all and its easy to say but remember we all die and the good die young.

In 100 years everyone on this planet will be dead, maybe i'm too scientific etc.

PS. Breast cancer isn't a big thing anymore theres alot of very good treatment and the survival rate is to be closing on 90pc.

EPM

OP, never posted in PI before but sorry to hear about your mother. My own mother was diagnosed with breast cancer in September. She had the lump removed and a follow up operation to remove her limph nodes under her arm. She is currently going through chemo. Breast cancer is VERY treatable, and the hospitals in this country are noted for being good in this regard. We are extremely hopeful for her.

I can understand how you can be knocked for six by this, but be positive for your Mom. If she can keep her spirits up and think positively thats half the battle for her and your family needs to be the same. Think of it this way - she's going to have a year ahead but there is no reason why she cant have a long and active life after this. As my Mom's consultant keeps telling her its just a short term blip!

Best of luck and chin up;)

RossFixxxed

Sorry to hear that OP. However, thinking about being strong is usually harder than rolling up your sleeves and getting into things. You're in that shock period right now but your tone suggests you'll be a rock for your mother and family in all this. It's horrible because it's out of your hands but you can do so much.

Keep your chin up there's a lot that can be done these days medically and the support and love I can see in your post will make such a HUGE difference to your mother.

R

LegacyUser

OP here,

Thank you all for you comments, things are a little better today. Two days have passed since we found out and i have settled into the facts again and i am ready to face the long road ahead again. I am positive as are the family.

Its just one of those things in life i suppose that some of us need to face.

Salome

Hi OP

Your family has been through everyone's worst nightmare already and you've all come out the other side. Your mum was the rock last time now it's someone else's turn to shoulder it all this time. She needs your support and care and love more than anything now - you will need to keep a positive outlook for her sake.

Breast cancer is very treatable - there's a good success rate. A colleague of mine has completed her treatment for breast cancer and is coming back to work next week - a great result. Be positive!!!