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Is this love..... that I'm feeling?

  • 14-01-2009 10:20pm
    #1
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭


    Folks of the After Hours.

    Quick question for you all. How long does it take to fall in love, and is there a cut off time for when you should just give up on a relationship?

    A thread in PI got me thinking, if you're with someone for a year, and you don't think you love them, is it unfair/naive to continue the relationship? In fact, is there any point to the relationship at all? Isn't love supposed to develop?

    In my experience, I've been in one long term relationship and one semi long term relationship. In both cases the girl said ''those words'' within the first few months. In the first relationship it took me a while longer to say it back, and in the second relationship I never said it at all, which is actually why the relationship ended (she ended it).

    Women, how long would you wait to hear the 3 magic words from your man?

    Men, are you bothered?


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  • #2
    dr.bollocko
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 35,945 Mod ✭✭✭✭dr.bollocko


    Just unlock the cage.
    If she stays for more than three minutes she's yours.


  • #3
    shenanigans1982
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,467 ✭✭✭shenanigans1982


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    Folks of the After Hours.

    Quick question for you all. How long does it take to fall in love, and is there a cut off time for when you should just give up on a relationship?

    A thread in PI got me thinking, if you're with someone for a year, and you don't think you love them, is it unfair/naive to continue the relationship? In fact, is there any point to the relationship at all? Isn't love supposed to develop?

    In my experience, I've been in one long term relationship and one semi long term relationship. In both cases the girl said ''those words'' within the first few months. In the first relationship it took me a while longer to say it back, and in the second relationship I never said it at all, which is actually why the relationship ended (she ended it).

    Women, how long would you wait to hear the 3 magic words from your man?

    Men, are you bothered?

    Does she make you dribble?


  • #4
    phasers
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,159 ✭✭✭✭phasers


    I give him an hour


  • #5
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    shenanigans1982 wrote: »
    Does she make you dribble?
    Who? Yore ma? Why yes of course. There are various sources for lube.


  • #6
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    My last ex told me he loved me after 3 weeks :eek: I took me a lot longer to say it back to him. Guess it didnt scare me that much as we were together for 5 yeras.

    I dont like throwing the "love" word about unless i'm 100%. If i didnt feel it after maybe 8 months i might call it a day.


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  • #7
    Professey Chin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,054 ✭✭✭✭Professey Chin


    Sounds like Aids to me


  • #8
    CreepingDeath
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,015 ✭✭✭CreepingDeath


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    ... is there a cut off time for when you should just give up on a relationship?

    Yeah, usually when I sober up the next morning.


  • #9
    AlmightyCushion
    Moderators, Education Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 35,125 Mod ✭✭✭✭AlmightyCushion


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    is there a cut off time for when you should just give up on a relationship?

    Yeah, about 12st.


  • #10
    Biggins
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 34,567 ✭✭✭✭Biggins


    Falling in love...?
    When you look into the other persons eyes and start to think of what your kids will look like - its a sign...

    Just for Kiera (see below): When you look into their eyes and think to yourself "My god, they no longer look like they are just two lovely diamonds floating in a sea of muck" ...its a sign! :D
    ...is there a cut off time for when you should just give up on a relationship?
    Yes, when it becomes clear, all the effort is becoming one way.


  • #11
    Pen1987
    Closed Accounts Posts: 870 ✭✭✭Pen1987


    Once she's preggers or in a pensionable job I'll be on board.


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  • #12
    pseudonym1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,092 ✭✭✭pseudonym1


    1 or 2 little white pills ought to induce it for ya :D


  • #13
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Biggins wrote: »
    When you look into the other persons eyes and start to think of what your kids will look like - its a sign...
    Ah come on now. That's not an AH answer. Please edit and stick something rude in instead.


  • #14
    Latchy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21,191 ✭✭✭✭Latchy


    Somtimes words are not needed, specially if she leaves in the middle of the night .


  • #15
    CreepingDeath
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,015 ✭✭✭CreepingDeath


    Kiera wrote: »
    My last ex told me he loved me after 3 weeks :eek:

    Lads will say anything for a blow job though.


  • #16
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    CreepingDeath wrote: »
    Lads will say anything for a blow job though. Because you had your mouth full?
    How hard is it for you to separate the thunderdome and AH? Its not rocket science!


  • #17
    Biggins
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 34,567 ✭✭✭✭Biggins


    Kiera wrote: »
    Ah come on now. That's not an AH answer. Please edit and stick something rude in instead.

    Done! :D


  • #18
    Alex_Forrest
    Closed Accounts Posts: 24 ✭Alex_Forrest


    6 months. if it aint love it won't be.

    then again if both are happy to continue then it's all good in the hood.

    in my experience 3 ex boyfriends have blurted it out within weeks which was too early for me.


  • #19
    jester77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,264 ✭✭✭✭jester77


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    the 3 magic words

    I'm confused here, which are the 3 magic words,
    dinner is ready
    OR
    want another beer?


  • #20
    Hank Scorpio
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,631 ✭✭✭✭Hank Scorpio


    Kiera wrote: »
    My last ex told me he loved me after 3 weeks :eek: I took me a lot longer to say it back to him. Guess it didnt scare me that much as we were together for 5 yeras.

    I dont like throwing the "love" word about unless i'm 100%. If i didnt feel it after maybe 8 months i might call it a day.

    8 months ;9 sorry too long for me

    3 times iv had a serious crunch has been 2 times instantly , and 1 time after 1 week :)


  • #21
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    jester77 wrote: »
    I'm confused here, which are the 3 magic words,
    dinner is ready
    OR
    want another beer?
    No no no, it's ''I will swallow''.


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  • #22
    themadchef
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,813 ✭✭✭themadchef


    There are lots of three magic words.

    "The tea's made" he's either saying that the next morning or no more hide the sausage for him

    "The beds warm".. needs no introduction ;)


    Really, depends on the situation for the "i love you" bit
    If he's mid orgasm.. i think you can pretty much say he's not really remembering he said. If you're not putting out, he's looking for da roide.

    If he really loves you it's more what he does than what he says.


    Finally the 3 word killer... "am i in.....yet" (ok, well it's 4 words..but it's late)


  • #23
    jester77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,264 ✭✭✭✭jester77


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    No no no, it's ''I will swallow''.

    Now, that's a mouthful!!


  • #24
    SeekUp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,072 ✭✭✭SeekUp


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    Folks of the After Hours.

    Quick question for you all. How long does it take to fall in love, and is there a cut off time for when you should just give up on a relationship?

    Women, how long would you wait to hear the 3 magic words from your man?

    Men, are you bothered?

    Pfft. I said it to him first, after we'd been seeing each other for a year.

    No cut off time -- if you're happy with it, stay with it. Simple as.

    (My mouth was clearly empty at the time. . . . Barely. . . . :rolleyes:)


  • #25
    Steve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,584 ✭✭✭✭Steve


    3 magic words... hmmm

    How does a Dublin bloke propose to his girlfriend??

    "yer fookin what??":eek:


    :D


  • #26
    dollybird09
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 321 ✭✭dollybird09


    I don't know how you know its the right time.. what if you feel it, think the other person feels it too but aren't sure and then say it and they dont say it back... its not the end of the world but i wonder would it become an issue because you feel like they should be in the same frame of mind as you??

    its not really an issue for me tho cos everyone loves me!!!


  • #27
    tiger325
    Closed Accounts Posts: 35 ✭tiger325


    actions speak louder than words but its nice to be reminded;)


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