I don't know where I'm going

LegacyUser

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i just need to write something here maybe it will help i dont have anyone else to talk to. im just so tired all the areas in my life are bad. im 27 yer old woman and i just feel like life is impossible for me. i dont know what i want to do i was jumping from course to course since i left secondary school i never had a proper job i dont even know if il be able to work i looked for jobs many times but never got one. i live in a little room and dont know if il ever be able to afford to rent a bigger room. i have had alot depression also. i dont have a close family except for my brother. im sorry there is always people worse than me but it seems the life thing is impossible for me i feel really really lonely in my life. i dont know anymore its all impossible

LegacyUser

stick in there and be positive, make sure u try to enjoy everything you do. Just because you get a qualification from college that does not mean you will be happy.enjoy life for what it is now and the future will take care of itself. Hope everything works out for you.I was in a similar situation you need to just enjoy life and dont judge anyone on what job they have. Just enjoy every day as much as you can. We are here for a good time, not a long time.

Overheal

I just read an account of a 24 year old man who started over with nothing but $25 and the clothes on his back. 6 months later he had a working car, a furnished apartment, and $3,000 in the bank.

Its always possible.

LegacyUser

I'd be pretty certain you have issues which are behind all of this and this is not the real you, you may have yet to see the real you or you've only really seen glimpses of what your life could be like if everything slotted in to place. I'd would see professional help like a doctor, counsellor or life coach. If you get in to a full time position then I'm sure people will like you, you'll make friends and go out more, find someone special, etc. At the moment maybe depression is holding you back and beating that could be the start of the all new you. Nothing in life is impossible - I can assure you, if you open your mind to the possibilities that your life could be then go about little by little towards that goal if it's an education or business or whatever then do that... keep plugging away. You just need to get over this little life speed bump and things will turn out well for you... remember - positive thinking!

Aard

First things first. If you feel suicidal or like injuring yourself, call the Samaritans or 999.


Secondly, your problems are very real, possibly frightening, but know that there is hope. There are some tools available that may help in the short-term.

1) Write out your CORE FEARS. Just start typing out your fears for about 10 minutes. By that time you should have refined the list to the most important ones to you. E.g. it is likely that most people are afraid of being alone. Maybe one of your core fears is lack of direction. Just keep writing for 10 minutes.

2) Next make out a GRATITUDE LIST. Again, spend 10 minutes writing down things you're grateful for. "Good physical health" might be one. "A loving brother" might be another.

3) Lastly, write down your LIFE'S PURPOSE. Like the above, spend 10 minutes wrting out sentences that define your purpose in life. By the end you might have something like "to live truthfully and bravely, and to fulfil my goals".



More long-term solutions are things like seeing a therapist, or if you're worried about your mental health, going to a psychiatrist. THERE IS HOPE. Just remember that "this too shall pass".

BanjoSpanner

There are many people out there who say "I've been there", and I'm another one of them ! :rolleyes:

First things first, my personal experience tells me that there is nothing I can say to you which will make this all better. All I can offer is a suggestion that you make use of the many services out there for people who find themselves in such places. Start with your GP and take it from there.

I thank my lucky stars every day that I met the girl I did ( now my wife ) because she was the one who gave me that advice I just gave you. I resisted it, thinking there was no point, that this was my issue, that nobody could help and hopefully one day I would just snap out of it. I was wrong.

I went to my GP basically to keep my wife quiet ! I went in sceptically, thinking it was just something I could do to prove her wrong. But I was the one who was wrong. I was so surprised to see that my GP sees this every day, and there are readily available options. Firstly he helped me manage and stabilise myself, then began the analysis and repair process.

I won't go into details ( unless you want me to - let me know ! ) but it was well worth it. I won't lie and say it was a quick fix job - it isn't because it's something you've got to manage for the rest of your life. But you can't do that without the tools required and these professional people teach you those skills.

I wish you luck. There are many people out there who know where you are and would love to see you succeed, like they have. One thing to keep in mind is that despite appearances, nobody needs to be alone in the world.