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Dating befuddlement

  • 12-01-2009 5:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've started seeing this girl and we've been on 3 dates so far. We're both in our late 20's.
    I'm not sure what to make of it though. I like her and each time I see her I like her more, which means I want to see her more often.

    She's quite a busy girl and I'd say we've only met up these 3 times with gaps of at least a week in between.

    I'm heading away tomorrow for a week so I can't meet with her this week, but I did sort of say to her today that I'd like to meet again. I only got a, what I felt was anyway, mild response of something like, yeah again sometime.

    So what I feel is that she's not madly keen. But it's early days yet and I could be reading into it too much.
    I've gone out with a few girls before where we were mad about each early on, but in those cases, we fell just as quickly out of that.

    I suppose, I just wanted to write down what I was thinking and wondering if you would tell me to carry on and see how it goes, or if you think that it isn't going great. I mean at what stage do you stop going on dates and become more committed? I suppose that's an often asked question.


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  • #2
    m83
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,021 ✭✭✭m83


    First of all, great thread title :)

    Secondly, I'd say just play it by ear. Everyone's different and wants different things from relationships depending on where they are in their life. You've had 3 dates which is a pretty good sign - girls (and to a lesser extent men) can tell how interested they are in a person very quickly. You may have also caught her on an off day.

    If I were you I'd have my week away and ask her again when I come back. If she knocks you back put it down to compatability issues and hey it's only 3 dates so it's not like you're losing anything substantial.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I agree with m83, play it by ear. Maybe the week away will do you good and give her a little space to decide if she still wants to see you. If you are going away on holiday, she may be distancing from you in case you meet someone while over there. You're right though maybe this one is a slow burner...


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