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Have you become friends with your Ex?

  • 12-01-2009 2:29pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi

    Has anyone on this become friends with their ex? No jealousy etc.. just a friendship full of fun and happiness like it was when you were together except no sex!

    :-)


Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    Yeah, a few times.......one or two absolutely not but a good few, yeah...

    Guess it depends on the two people and how they acted during the relationship and the reason for the breakup and how it went....

    And if there's any unanswered questions or issues it might be a dodgy move on any number of levels, or if someone cheated or treated someone like crap then why would you want to be friends with someone like that ?

    But otherwise - feck it; sure it's just a case of two people who enjoyed each other's company and cared about each other, so why shouldn't that still be there, albeit on a different "level" ?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,006 ✭✭✭WithCheesePlease


    Same as above - in some cases yes, in other cases hell no!


  • Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 17,231 Mod ✭✭✭✭Das Kitty


    Eventually yeah in some cases, but never straight away, you need time to get your head out of the relationship.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,131 ✭✭✭Curvy Vixen


    I think it depends on the breakup and also if one still has feelings for the other and more importantly what the other one does/does not do about that fact.

    I'm in a situation at the moment where we broke up just because things had run their course. There was no acrimony or other people or anything, just two people who stopped the loving/lovers bit and became more of a mates thing.

    I know that he would probably get back together with me given half a chance but I also know that this would be a big mistake...bit like slipping on comfy slippers. However, I think it's important that I don't lead him on in any way.

    I have once and feel quite guilty about it and will never do it again. I know he would do anything for me so I make sure to never ask him to do anything.

    I don't want to give him false hope about something that is so dead for me.

    Hence we can remain friends...in fact we get on better now than we did married :D

    So if you can keep it at that very *friendly* level without any ambiguity and not let it get any further then absolutely you can :)


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,361 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Not a PI


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