Sister is a scum bag.

LegacyUser

OK, I'm gonna make this as short as i can;


I hate my sister. I'm 20 (im a guy), she's 26 (i think). She has a 1 year old child.

She's a scumbag. Dirtball. Waste of space. Whatever term you prefer to use yourself.

I've never liked her. I live with my dad. She lives about an hour away.

Anyway, every time she comes to the house (she usually comes down once a week) there's arguments. She always wants a lend of something (Digital camera, DVDs, etc) or wants to use something belong to me (computer, for example).


My dad has constant arguments with her, but always lets her come down to the house when she wants etc. because of her child (i can understand his logic there. he can't stand my sister, but feels sorry for the child).


However, my sister (pregnant again) just user her child to get sympathy off people.


She has a history of drug use and has, to the best of my knowledge, warrants out for her arrest

- Lets cut to the end of the story:


I hate her and just wish she'd fcuk off and leave everyone alone. She causes hassle for everyone.

What i'd ideally like to do is have her come to the house and (without her knowing) ring the guards to come and arrest her (she'll end up with a nice juicy 5 years in Mount Joy, i am lead to believe). However, i would feel sorry for the child. Sister has a boyfriend (the child's father) and he's another waste of time. She often comes to the house out of her head on drugs with the child. So much so that i begin to feel worried for the poor baby.


I've argued with her time and time again. Whenever i give out to her she goes on to shout abuse at me in front of people; usually shouting embarrassing stories at me (of course her stories are all made up, but you get the idea if what she's like?). I can't bring friends to the house in fear of her showing up unexpectedly and making a show of me.




Just looking for some advice on what i should do. *SNIP* Alternatively, having her arrested is a good option, but then im not sure what happens to the child she has (or the one she's expecting).


Anyone dealt with this kinda thing before?

Wibbs

OP Please ease off the violence if you're looking for useful advice. Thanks.

Nevyn

If you are concerned for the welfare of the child and you think the child is at risk then make a report under the child protection act with your local social workers.

Show_me_Safety

Irritated wrote: »

OK, I'm gonna make this as short as i can;


he can't stand my sister, but feels sorry for the child).


However, my sister (pregnant again) just user her child to get sympathy off people.


She has a history of drug use and has, to the best of my knowledge, warrants out for her arrest

. She often comes to the house out of her head on drugs with the child. So much so that i begin to feel worried for the poor baby.

you should contact the gardai.

Adam

if you involve social services, or the guards, it's only going to cause more trouble, and will only solve the problem temporarily even if she was carted off to the slammer.

my advice, get yourself out of there. i know it's easier said than done, but it's the easiest solution i can see. try and get somewhere to rent, maybe you have friends that need another room mate etc.

i do feel sorry for the child, but at least if you're not in a position that you have to see her regularly you'll be less stressed, and you can still keep an eye on the situation, and get social services involved if needs be at a later date. and don't tell her where you live.

Monkey61

If you know for a fact that she is using drugs around her child, then in my opinion you do have a responsibility to contact social services or perhaps the gardai. Yes it will cause lots and lots of trouble, but her child deserves better.

John Mason

phone the police and social services

LegacyUser

If you call the guards, her children will probably receive better care. She may go to prison, you and your father can have little to do with her. So, you need to make sure she doesn't know it was you who rang... You need to help her (children at least) because she isn't helping herself...

MJOR

try and get help for herr instead of hating her! Be constructive instead of wanting to get her in trouble

mikemac

You can get 5 years in Mountjoy for drug use?
I doubt it and I've read your post and don't see any other offenses here.

Now you did mention possible neglect and her minding her child while on drugs.
Yep, contact the gardai and social services and sit back and watch bureaucracy in action.
I hope it goes well for you and your niece OP and not like the Baby P case.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,
my family had dealings with social workers over my sister's toddler. She wasn't on drugs or around them but was very very stressed as a single mum and needed some help. As she was living far away from her siblings and the grandparents were ill the social worker stepped in.
What she got was some respite day time fostering when it was needed until she was more able.
The public health nurse was the first port of call and kept a check on the little one and got the ball rolling.
It was tough to watch ,but my nephew has grown up a happy well-adjusted child.We HATED doing it but the bottom line is the CHILD'S needs have to come first.

From what you say there is a need for someone to make a phone call to the public health nurse for the child's area, the Health board can give it to you.
At the very least it will red flag the kiddie so that he/she can be monitored.They won't remove the child unless they see serious signs of neglect,and in that case the kiddie is better of in care.
It's a tough spot to be in as an uncle , hope it works out for the best.















I know it's an awful spot to be in but

Liam Byrne

She's your sister and you don't know her age ?

LegacyUser

but why do you do want to get rid the police? it seems more that you dont liker her rather concern for her child

lawstudent99

did you ever talk to your dad about how you feel about her coming around, or her drug use?

4Xcut

Without question, you should go to social services for thge good of your nephew. If she kicks up, just ignore her. With the child out of her care your father can take a step back form her too.

There is an awful lot that can be forgiven by family but the way she is abusing that child is not one of them in my opinion.

With whatever course you decide to take, try and think of the child as much as possible. You're old enough to deal with this and even completely cut her out, your nephew isn't unless you help him.

Nevyn

She wont know it is you that made the report unless you tell her as it is considered confidential and the socail workers will not say who it was the made the report under the child protection act.

Bottle_of_Smoke

If she's a woman and pregnant I can't see her getting anything more than a suspended sentence, even if she's a minor dealer.