Is it a size issue?

LegacyUser

Hey!

Myself and girlfriend are very much in love.

There is an issue with my girfriend and her having a vaginal orgasm. The issue being that it has never happened. With me or with anyone in the past. Clitoral, absolutely no worries!

I absolutely love going down on her (really, I cannot get enough of it) and she of course loves it too. I can bring her off with my fingers also. The penetrative sex is fantastic. She had her first ever clitoral orgasm during penetrative sex with me and she tells me it means the world to her. We communicate alot with each other which has lead to our sex life becomming increasingly better. We have also very recently started looking into Tantric Sex. Basically, I enjoy sex with her more than anything and she says the same.

However, I'm wondering about her never cumming vaginally. Is it me? Is it her? Is it nobody? I've wondered if it could be my size. I'm (ever so) slightly above average but, like most men I think, wouldn't mind being larger. I've asked her if she thinks this could be the issue and she said no. But the thing is, when I asked her about the size of her previous lovers (from the point of view that I wanted to try and work out if it is a size issue), she said that they were all "pretty much the same" as me. Now, this has made me think how could she know that maybe since she has never had a large one, maybe that is what she's missing out on? Do you think that could be it?

She has used a vibrator before but never a dildo style one so I have suggested she use one in her own time to see if she can figure out a way herself and then show me.

Or am I looking into this too much? I mean, Should I just be satisfied with her telling me she's perfectly satisfied? I would be quite weary of labouring this too much with her but it is on my mind. I just love her dearly and be the best lover I can for her.

Thanks in advance for any input

figs86

http://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en-us&q=percentage+of+women+orgasm+clitoral&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8

read those links, should explain it really

anniehoo

Unregistered wrote: »

Or am I looking into this too much? I mean, Should I just be satisfied with her telling me she's perfectly satisfied?

Basically..yes! Many women cant even achieve clitoral orgasm through penetration so trying for the holy grail of the vaginal one is wishful thinking! It sounds like you are both having great sex, you're both satisfied so take the pressure of both yourself and your girlfriend. Have fun trying but dont expect it to ever happen..its not that common and shes one lucky girl if she manages it!

McGinty

Or am I looking into this too much? I mean, Should I just be satisfied with her telling me she's perfectly satisfied? I would be quite weary of labouring this too much with her but it is on my mind. I just love her dearly and be the best lover I can for her.

Hi Op

I was angry reading your post because you have a brilliant sex life and for God's sake, thank your lucky stars, give up on the whole bloody size thing and her coming from your penis. Look, size is irrelevant with women, unless you have a one inch weener, then maybe she won't feel so full up. What I can say is that some women come vaginally some of the time, all of the time and none of the time. I do come vaginally (not always), for years it was the only way I could, but it had nothing to do with the size of the man, thankfully I can now come by hand/mouth and as odd as it sounds, I am glad. Forget about performance and ask yourself this - do you feel connected with your girlfriend? Do you enjoy your sex together? If a woman says she is having a great time then nine times out of ten she is telling the truth. There are also physical signs and if she comes other ways, you know what those are, so just enjoy. Also I would highly recommend the tantra, but drop the ego and go with the feeling you both share, it will blow your mind.

LegacyUser

HI
Dont worry about it mate. I've had all sizes in my time and still have never managed a vaginal orgasm. I reckon some of us are just not made that way. God I am thankfull I can have the clitoral variety cos I have friends who have never had either.
Stop worrying about it. She is a lucky girl to have a guy who is so eager to please her and Im sure she realises that.

Deedsie

Unregistered wrote: »

Hey!

Myself and girlfriend are very much in love.

There is an issue with my girfriend and her having a vaginal orgasm. The issue being that it has never happened. With me or with anyone in the past. Clitoral, absolutely no worries!

I absolutely love going down on her (really, I cannot get enough of it) and she of course loves it too. I can bring her off with my fingers also. The penetrative sex is fantastic. She had her first ever clitoral orgasm during penetrative sex with me and she tells me it means the world to her. We communicate alot with each other which has lead to our sex life becomming increasingly better. We have also very recently started looking into Tantric Sex. Basically, I enjoy sex with her more than anything and she says the same.

However, I'm wondering about her never cumming vaginally. Is it me? Is it her? Is it nobody? I've wondered if it could be my size. I'm (ever so) slightly above average but, like most men I think, wouldn't mind being larger. I've asked her if she thinks this could be the issue and she said no. But the thing is, when I asked her about the size of her previous lovers (from the point of view that I wanted to try and work out if it is a size issue), she said that they were all "pretty much the same" as me. Now, this has made me think how could she know that maybe since she has never had a large one, maybe that is what she's missing out on? Do you think that could be it?

She has used a vibrator before but never a dildo style one so I have suggested she use one in her own time to see if she can figure out a way herself and then show me.

Or am I looking into this too much? I mean, Should I just be satisfied with her telling me she's perfectly satisfied? I would be quite weary of labouring this too much with her but it is on my mind. I just love her dearly and be the best lover I can for her.

Thanks in advance for any input

You Lucky Lucky Bstard!

LegacyUser

Try using pillows to change your angle, try and hit the front wall as much as you can especially when spread eagle. Maybe reverse cowboy with her leaning forward? Try also crossing her legs across your chest when she's on the corner of the bed, when your hands are on the bed her legs will act like a spring when you lean over on them. Keeps the rhythm going don't stop... nice

Just because most women don't doesn't mean you can't keep trying. Have fun!

LegacyUser

OP here....

anniehoo wrote: »

Basically..yes! Many women cant even achieve clitoral orgasm through penetration so trying for the holy grail of the vaginal one is wishful thinking! It sounds like you are both having great sex, you're both satisfied so take the pressure of both yourself and your girlfriend. Have fun trying but dont expect it to ever happen..its not that common and shes one lucky girl if she manages it!

I will definitely take you advice here. I don't believe I've put any pressure on her yet but I most certainly don't want to do so.

McGinty wrote: »

Hi Op

I was angry reading your post because you have a brilliant sex life and for God's sake, thank your lucky stars, give up on the whole bloody size thing and her coming from your penis. Look, size is irrelevant with women, unless you have a one inch weener, then maybe she won't feel so full up. What I can say is that some women come vaginally some of the time, all of the time and none of the time. I do come vaginally (not always), for years it was the only way I could, but it had nothing to do with the size of the man, thankfully I can now come by hand/mouth and as odd as it sounds, I am glad. Forget about performance and ask yourself this - do you feel connected with your girlfriend? Do you enjoy your sex together? If a woman says she is having a great time then nine times out of ten she is telling the truth. There are also physical signs and if she comes other ways, you know what those are, so just enjoy. Also I would highly recommend the tantra, but drop the ego and go with the feeling you both share, it will blow your mind.

Hi McGinty, thanks for reply.

I didn't mean to anger anyone but the fact that it I did has helped me put things in perspective. I do thank my lucky stars that we have such a brilliant sex life and I do feel very connected with her. I just felt she was perhaps missing out in some way. I would also be lying if I was to say my ego wasn't involved in some way. I'll drop it.

Deedsie wrote: »

You Lucky Lucky Bstard!

And this has really put things in perspective. I feel like a right prat now!

Thanks a million guys!

LegacyUser

I had a similar situation as yourself, but it actually turned out that she just didn't know how too do it herself rather then being a problem with me.

After years of trying various things, she managed too have an orgasm by simply lifting her hips up towards me a bit.

Its actually a bit tiring for a girl to do it. Basically when I'm on top working away, she'd start holding my back with her hands and then using her strenght too angle her thingy up towards me a bit. After a few goes she orgasms.

Now she has multiple orgams every time we have sex. My record so far was 5 orgasms in the one session.

So what i have learnt is that its actually down too them too learn how too bring themselves too and orgasm rather then you doing anything wrong.

I think this is where the confusion comes from guys think its down too them when its actually completely down too her.

Also just too add it doesn't matter how small your penis is. As even if I orgasm before her, if I keep it in there going even if it gets a bit small she still can orgasm just fine.

Anyways this is just my own experience.