womens problem

LegacyUser

I'm 25 and female. I have been happily single for the past five years. I have been sexually inactive since breaking up with my ex five years ago.

Recently I needed to do something, so I bought a range of adult magazines and toys. The problem is that i can't insert any of the toys. I've a range of sizes in the toys and they are not big but I can't get any in. I make sure that I'm well lubericated before trying to insert anything. I never had a problem before (never had any adult toys when I was younger but I never had a problem with sex).

Do any of you ladies have this problem and if so can anything be done about it. I'm worried because of the the future - whenever I do decide that I want a man I might not be able to do anything sexually with him.

Thanks

Wibbs

First off you don't need to be inserting anything. Just use them externally in the way that pleases you. I wouldn't worry about the next guy either. You've been sexually active before, so you'll adapt no probs I would say.

funloving

Maybe even if you're lubricated your muscles are tight and that can explain why these "toys" don't get in...
Try and masturbate when you're more relaxed,while you're taking a bath for example...
Don't worry about the next guy either..

themadchef

You've been sexually active before so don't worry about what will happen with the next guy.

My advice would be, don't plan it, or think about it so much...wait till you're horny! It's supposed to be fun! Forget about the sex toys for now.. work up to them. Start really small, or not all all. Fingers, clitoral stimulation. Whatever it takes to get you there. Try to discover what makes you tick. It's a learning experience, relax. As another poster said, try the bath for a new experience.

Dudess

For me, penetration is a no-no unless I'm aroused. Lubrication on its own isn't enough. Carry out "foreplay" on yourself with your hands (use ice cubes - awesome!), think erotic thoughts, watch erotic material (not porn, instead something like an intense sex scene in a mainstream movie - try Atonement or The End of the Affair. Absolutely HOT!) Take as long as you need to build things up, make sure you are extremely relaxed, then your vagina should be able to accommodate penetration. But if not, don't worry about it at all.

LegacyUser

A couple of thoughts; do you have problems inserting tampons? If so you may have a physical problem that needs checking by your GP.

If you don't have a physical problem the issue could be an emotional one that relates to sexuality. I'm new here so I don't know if I can post this, but a friend of mine was totally messed up emotionally and went here -www.aidansloan.ie She raves about her experience and she certainly is a different person in the last year or so. Hope this helps

Annie Bananie

Agree on whats said above. Use them externally until you are really aroused/horny. Personally I doubt it would be very nice inserting anything before that point.

Depends on what kind of toy it is, but you can also try and "sit" on it, as you would if you were on top of a man. That way you can use your body weight to push the toy in. But will be said again, do not insert anything until your vagina is "ready" for it.

Good luck and have fun