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Body Language holding me back?

  • 05-01-2009 2:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Recently I've been trying to figure out why I haven't had much luck with women before, and it was brought to my attention that it could be because of my body language. Is this true? I started noticing myself that I rarely made eye contact when talking to people, I'd glance for a second, but wouldn't sustain it for very long. What kind of message would this have given people?

    Now I've started purposefully making proper eye contact (not staring mind you) and I've noticed how much people actually look at me when talking, and basically how much I haven't been looking. Is it, and body language as a whole really a big deal?


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  • #2
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Well speaking as a guy, I would say a woman avoiding eye contact does put me off. I would reckon that's even more the case for guys though. It makes you look at worst, "shifty" or at best unconfident. I dunno, better counsel may come along as a solution.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #3
    Kidchameleon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,482 ✭✭✭Kidchameleon


    Hi OP,

    Read this:

    The Definitive Book of Body Language

    By Allan & Barbara Pease.

    Youll get it in easons ect for about 13 quid. Well worth it, it will change your life;), trust me!

    Regards.


  • #4
    Censorsh!t
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,121 ✭✭✭Censorsh!t


    i had this problem. I figure also because i'm very shy and scared of making eye contact and seeming too forward. Disastrous at the end of the day!

    I find in general, it doesnt matter how great looking someone is, confidence is usually way more successful.


  • #5
    Lola123
    Closed Accounts Posts: 582 ✭✭✭Lola123


    Kidchameleon wrote: »
    Hi OP,

    Read this:

    The Definitive Book of Body Language

    By Allan & Barbara Pease.

    Youll get it in easons ect for about 13 quid. Well worth it, it will change your life;), trust me!

    Regards.

    excellent book.
    Body language is really important, maybe you've been giving off all the wrong signals and reading the wrong ones too.


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