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She's very unhappy about how she looks

  • 04-01-2009 5:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been going out with my GF for over 1.5 years and ever since a few months in I was aware she was unhappy about her body.

    Every few weeks/months she get quite upside about 1 aspect or another of how she looks. This time it's her Thighs, or sadle bags as she called them. I think she's gorgeous and in my eyes there's nothing wrong with her the way she looks and that's what I keep telling her.

    Her dislike comes as a result of the media portraying all these beautiful girls all glammed up and made out as perfect people.

    I'd love to know how to deal with this as I'm lost for words when ever it happen, me saying that there's nothing wrong/bad/horrible about it isn't enough. She even goes as far as saying she wishes she was never born, which to me seems like an easy way out from her misery. I don't think it's her looking for attention because she gets enough of it from me and she usually won't want me near her in these situations.

    So what can I do for her?


Comments

  • #2
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    Anytime my ex would go on these rants I would reply with a very loud

    "OOGA BOOGA"

    Do not give this nonsense a hearing.

    Then a half hour later tell her she looks gorgeous.


  • #3
    Ciara2008
    Closed Accounts Posts: 42 ✭Ciara2008


    Find lots of random ways to tell her shes beautiful.....not just becuase she expresses an insecurity - just make sure she knows you love her the way she is, an no matter what way she looks.

    She really needs to build up her own confidence and self esteem as if you keep reassuring her she will become dependent a need you to tell her. Have a chat with her about it - tell her it bugs you because it seems silly she could feel this way. There might be an underlying problem...

    good luck x


  • #4
    Kirnsy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 970 ✭✭✭Kirnsy


    Mr. Incognito wrote: »
    Anytime my ex would go on these rants I would reply with a very loud

    "OOGA BOOGA"

    Do not give this nonsense a hearing.

    Then a half hour later tell her she looks gorgeous.



    wouldnt agree with that myself. that could upset her more thinking you dont care about her problems.


  • #5
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    At the end of the day, there's only so much you can listen to.

    Why not tell her to stop whining about it, and start doing something about it? Why not suggest going to the gym together? Swimming? Hiking? Cycling?


  • #6
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    wouldnt agree with that myself. that could upset her more thinking you dont care about her problems.

    If my lady has a genuine problem I'll listen all day. She was a midwife and I'd get the blow by blow of her work day fine, but a gorgeous young lady should not be supported if she thinks she looks fat when she clearly isn't. I treated it as ridiculous hoping she would too. For the record it never seemed to matter whether I listened to it or not, some people just have body issues for whatever reason.


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