Parents are moving home

LegacyUser

I need to get this off my chest, i dont know what im goin to achieve by posting this here,i need advice,to see it from a diffrent angle.Anything can help.

My parents want to move house, im 19, ive been moved around for my whole life,and im finally settled the last 8 years,were i have made great friends.A few months ago my parents threatened to move,but me and my brother(1 of 4) kicked up a fuss and it died down.

Yesterday, in plain view of me were looking at houses on the internet and i bring it up and they say theres nothing to talk about.They cant see my point of view at all.It will mess up my college,and maybe the rest of my life with regards to a degree.I will loose the close bond i have with all my friends,im with them everyday.
I dont know how to bring it up in a low key way because they make an arguement out it and it just ends up in a shouting match,and i dont want to come to blows with my father.
I reallly dont know what to do i just cannot respect there decision,i cant see it any other way than them being selfish.Theyve told my brothers(younger) that they think the place is a kip,im the eldest and they wont even discuss it with me!

Silverfish

Is there an option where you can rent / houseshare where you currently are, and not move with them?

B0X

If you're constantly moving it sounds like they see "the grass greener on the other side".
If bringing it up always ends up in a shouting match perhaps show them this post or write a note, some way that they have to look at your views without immediatly trying to refute them.

Jack B. Badd

Angry09 wrote: »

i just cannot respect there decision,i cant see it any other way than them being selfish.Theyve told my brothers(younger) that they think the place is a kip,im the eldest and they wont even discuss it with me!

With all due respect, you're 19 and technically an adult. Your younger brothers are still children and therefore the responsibility of your parents, unlike you. As an adult you have the option of moving out of home - look into sorting out a house or flatshare in the area if you want to stay there and continue with your degree. The university you're attending probably has an accommodation office that can advise you on renting.

The_Conductor

You're 19. You can make decisions for yourself. Your parents want to sell their home and move- so be it. Its not up to you to preach to them what they can and cannot do. If you want to stay in the area where you are at the moment- get yourself a parttime job, move out, and support yourself. Its what we've all done for aeons. They don't have to discuss their plans or decisions with you- and any discussions are purely so you know whats happening.

To be quite frank- why do you think it will mess up your life and your degree? Your life, and indeed your degree, are what you make of them.

I think you are being entirely unreasonable towards your parents by dictating to them what they can and cannot do.

If they want to move- and you do not- respect their decision- its their house, not yours, and if they are making a mistake- its their mistake to make.

You have decisions of your own to make- you're plenty old enough to support yourself and move out of the family home if you so choose, or if you wish to continue living in the family home, where-ever that might be, you have to accept that you have to abide by the decisions and rules of your parents.

Threatening a shouting match, and suggesting that it might come to blows, only suggests you are the selfish one- throwing a petulant teenage temper tantrum. You have made your feelings felt on the matter- they have obviously made a decision- live with their decision......... As long as you insist on living in the family home- you have to abide by their decisions. Its life. You may consider it tough, but thats how it is.

niceirishfella

Time to move out me thinks. You're 19 man........and it'll be brilliant for you.

Beruthiel

Angry09 wrote: »

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I reallly dont know what to do i just cannot respect there decision,i cant see it any other way than them being selfish.

Sorry, but that actually made me laugh out loud.
This is your parents house, they can buy and sell as they please.
You are the child, you can like it or lump it.
As you clearly don't like it, then move. I moved out of my parents house at age 19, so can you.

As for college, this isn't Outter Mongolia or somewhere in the African bush, no matter where they live you can still go to college.

niceirishfella

anyways, they'll be lucky to sell at the mo.

tbh

if you're that close with your mates, it doesn't matter how far apart ye are, you'll still be mates. I'd suggest you get used to this mate, life has a habit of throwing you off course a lot. Here is the situation: Your parents are selling their house. If you don't want to move with them, you don't have to. Your life will be more difficult if you want to live on your own, but that's the price you have to pay. If you think it's worth it, you will.

I'll say this much, the earlier you can learn to fend for yourself the better for you. I advise moving out of the house and setting up on your own. If your parents don't like that idea, then stuff them!
And just think of the respect you'll get from your peers.