Texts

LegacyUser

Just a quick question...if a guy texts every now and again in a friendly way but doesn't actually initiate any date, is he interested at all? Why is he bothering??

mru

What is the general gist of the texts?

abi2007

kinda hard to tell.. how do you know him?

Mimikyu

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LegacyUser

hi i'm a guy and i do this cos i'm unsure as to whether i want to meet her again but defo see something in her to text her. so i text to see what she's like. tho i do have a rule that i do it for 2 weeks max and if i'm still unsure i stop texting. go with the flow and play the game a bit

LegacyUser

I have known him from up home for a few years, kissed a few times. I probably turned him down a few times in the early days because I wasn't confident enough and heard he was a ladies man. Now the texts are friendly chit chat every once in a while.

MagicMarker

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I have known him from up home for a few years, kissed a few times. I probably turned him down a few times in the early days because I wasn't confident enough and heard he was a ladies man. Now the texts are friendly chit chat every once in a while.

Well, would you like it to be more? If so, why not ask him? If not, why do you care?

Miss Fluff

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I have known him from up home for a few years, kissed a few times. I probably turned him down a few times in the early days because I wasn't confident enough and heard he was a ladies man. Now the texts are friendly chit chat every once in a while.

Sounds like he is testing the water. Are you interested in him? If so, cut him some slack and give the poor chap some encouragement!;)

Toto Wolfcastle

Tbh he might just want to be friends, or he might want more. It could be either from the nature of the texts.

The best thing you can do is decide whether you like him or not. If you do want more, then say it, if not, just continue to text him in a friendly way.

MizzLolly

Texting always makes things a little bit cloudy because it's easy to type and send something you wouldn't normally say and it allows for more game playing/strategies too. You never really know where you stand! Ask him to meet you somewhere, spend some time talking and see if there's any chemistry there.

If he makes it difficult to meet up with you but insists he likes you, he's a headwrecker and is probably one of those text bandits who do it for a reaction/attention! Good luck

Trinity

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Just a quick question...if a guy texts every now and again in a friendly way but doesn't actually initiate any date, is he interested at all? Why is he bothering??[/QUOTE]


But why do your female friends bother to text you if thats the case? Granted i am sure you meet up with your friends but there is no point over analysing a text.

If you got a text off a girl you knew from home would you be sitting there thinking, does she like me? will she ask me out? will i put a thread on boards about it?

No you take it that she likes you as a person and is having a chat or saying hello. He doesnt have to be romantically interested in you to like you as a person. From what you said its just chit chat hes not being overly flirty. And just because he is a guy doesnt automatically mean he wants anything other than friendship from you.

Now i know it gets more complicated when its a member of the opposite sex, sometimes, but sometimes its just friendliness. Only one way to find out.

If you want to ask him to meet up then go ahead, dont sit there waiting on him to do the asking.

[Jackass]

If there is a bit of history then he is more than likely interested. Why would he bother texting otherwise considering you're not every day mates but he still thinks about you.

I don't know if you both live in the same area / city or whatever but casually throw in to a text "any plans for the weekend?" then if he for example mentions "yeah going to x club / pub" you say "no way, I'm heading to x bar (which is around the corner) with a few of the girls for cocktails (or whatever)" then just say it's been ages, he should pop in for a drink. Then go to x pub with some friends.

Easy, non commited way to ask somebody out. No pressure cause you're both doing your own thing anyway