smitten!

abi2007

i posted a little while back about thinking i was shallow cause I've dated alot of guys in the last year or so but never really fancied them over their looks or the likes... so i gave this one guy a chance went on a good few dates with him, even though i thought he was a nice guy I just didn't fancy him so i've realised thats not the way to go.

.. now i've met this guy who i'm mad about.. not drop dead gorgeous but not bad looking and i like his personality or what i know of it. thing is i met him last sat, went on a date on tuesday and he's text me everyday (not lots of texts). i really like him but i don't feel good enough for him, i don't think i'm good looking enough to be with him or fun enough. why is that? why do i feel like i'm out of his league?

Pherekydes

abi2007 wrote: »

...but i don't feel good enough for him

Just stop right there.

That is all.

P.S. Put those thoughts right out of your head.

abi2007

i'm trying to.. usually really confident when it comes to guys... finally found somebody i like.

LegacyUser

My GF went through the same thing when we first started dating. It was completely irrational because she is hot! I don't know why she got so insecure, but I do know it almost killed our relationship before it had even started. She knows now how silly she was being. I liked her enough to persevere even when she was going through her freaking out stage of ''im not good enough, im not pretty, bla bla bla''

Seriously, it was luck that I persevered, I almost gave up on it. So drop your attitude, no one should ever go around saying they aren't good enough for someone else. You might have a good thing with this guy, don't wreck your chances.

At the very least, don't freak out or act weird around him. Act normal. Fake it if you have to (and in the meantime, work on your insecurities so that eventually you won't have to fake it).

RedXIV

Try to change it around so instead of worrying "oh my god he might leave me any minute because i'm not good enough" use the fact to try and make yourself better. I feel like that sometimes with my girlfriend. I know i shouldn't but i can't help it, to me she's perfect and i can't imagine her having trouble pulling any other guys. so i try to make myself better, i'm TRYING to get into shape i'll always be thinking of her, i put extra thought into birthdays and Xmas and as a result our relationship has been nothing short of fantastic so far. She keeps telling me that i'm mad to think it but i can't help it so i know how you feel

Liam Byrne

abi2007 wrote: »

now i've met this guy who i'm mad about......he's text me everyday (not lots of texts).

To me that's NOT a PI. Just be glad you've found him.

HE obviously thinks you're good enough for him because he wouldn't be texting otherwise.

Be glad you've started 2009 on such a good note and best of luck!

Dudess

If you make it too obvious you don't feel good enough for him, it could very well put him off - that can come across as insecure and needy (for reassurance/validation - not attractive)... so do yourself a favour and stop thinking that way.