to be or not to be.....?

LegacyUser

I know this forum is full of the same things about boy / girlfriend problems and mine is no exception. This place is kind of my last resort. I am going unreg for this, so here it goes......

I broke up with my boyfriend in september. We were together about 3 years on / off. The last year being the ''serious'' year! Anyway, when I did it I was never as happy! I found out that my mam wasnt fussed on him, even though she always got on like a house on fire with him when she saw him. She told me that she thought I could do much better than him.

Not long after we had broken up, just at halloween i got a text off him sayin he missed me and was sure i would be lookin hot dressed up in my costume. I knew he obviously was out and had a few drinks on him so I didnt text him back until the nex morning when I made a kinda joke outta it so as not to make it a big deal for him!

We are friends with the same group so made a deal to keep in contact when we broke up as it was only fair.

My problem is that the last month or so I have been missing him terribly. And I realised today, that I would be willing to give things another go!

My head is wrecked now.....what do i do?!?

Appreciate peoples 2 cents please....

thanks a million! X

RedXIV

It's true, there are alot of boy/girl threads and as a result, similar advice is very often passed around. And you're going to be told "you need to break contact". and you do, its as simple as. You've been intimate with this guy for quite a long time, you need to ween yourself off him. As soon as your mind can get used to being happy without thinking about him, you'll be ok but it will probably take weeks of no contact, maybe months.

Sorry OP, wish there was a simple cure for what you're feeling but there isn't

White_Feather

OP, just wondering, since you both keep in contact with eachother, did you mention to him that you miss him?

starchild

discuss it with him, tell him you miss him, it might be the same in the end but it also might be super

be true to your feelings

jellie

3 years is a long time, its natural to miss him. break ups are always crappy

you say you were on/off over the 3 years so im guessing something similar has happened before? if so, whats different now? if you did want to get back together would anything have changed or would you end up in the same situation a few months?

Wibbs

What sar84 wrote. Have things changed. Have those things that split you up changed. Why did you split? I wouldn't be too concerned about what your mum said. She probably just said it as a support to you.

If things have changed and you have realised that you want to be with this guy, well then go for it. The grass is not always greener.

LegacyUser

Do you want to go back out with him because it would be easier for you, given that you and him hang around in the same group of friends?
If this is the case, it's probably the wrong reason.
It's ****ty because at the best of times, I never take anyone elses advice. You do what you want to do, regardless. Nobody here knows what special bond you had with your ex-boyfriend of three years.
If you feel you want to give it another go, try it.
Go with what you feel is right, not the easiest option.
I know how you feel, been there!

Good Luck.