Practical advice sex

LegacyUser

I have never had this problem before and I feel a bit embarrassed about it. I can't make my GF come during intercourse. She doesn't seem to have a g-spot inside her vagina. My last two GFs were able to come during sex, so I am wondering what could I do to help my current GF? Do I just stimulate her with my fingers while we are having sex? I think that would be awkward??????
She can come when I stimulate her clit with my fingers.

I also wonder if the problem may be psychological, my GF sometimes gets bladder inflammtion after sex, which is quite painful for her. She is getting it sorted with a GP at the minute, but it is something that worries her. Maybe she cant relax during sex. Or perhaps the two are not linked.

Anyway, I would appreciate some practical advice on what I could do to help my GF. I know the main thing is to ask her, and I will, but I would like to be able to do it without asking her first.

Sorry if this thread is too graphic or not allowed, delete if so.

Kevster

Hi,

Every girl has a 'g-spot', for the record. It is just the part of the vagina that comes into close contact with the bladder, as far as I'm aware. I can't be overly sure though. In any case, this is definately an issue that would be best discussed with your partner. I mean, you should be able to talk to her face to face about what to try and what not to try when together. If you don't talk to her, how can you know what is best for her?

That said, I would not be putting pressure on her or making her feel bad about this situation, considering that she probably already feels bad about it. Encourage her to open-up about the problem and show that you genuinely care. This mere act could be all you need in order to improve the sex life.

punchdrunk

slow it way down! sounds rushed and she's probably neither comfortable or relaxed enough...

Do I just stimulate her with my fingers while we are having sex?
sure,but more importantly do it before-hand!

if you slow it down to like 30-45 mins foreplay (not that i'm suggesting you bring your stop watch!) she should be more relaxed

i had a girlfriend once who's breasts weren't evern slightly sensitive,i mean nothing at all so i quickly learned paying them "attention" was a waste of time,but strangely her lower back was extremely sensitive,you just have to go exploring and see what works...ask her!

Mixedup

my boyfriend and i have a wonderful sex life, and i orgasm everytime, but i have never had an orgasm from penetration, with anyone, so i think i just can't, and it doesnt bother me in the slightest to be honest, he can make me orgasm by stimulating me with his hands or orally, but only on my clitoris. I still love sex, but he just makes sure i come beforehand or afterwards!

dont stress about it, unless she has orgasmed that way before and can't with you, then it would just take practice!

LegacyUser

A g spot is a female version of a prostate gland. Its a leftover, in the same way that men have nipples. All men can cum from a finger up the bum massaging the prostate. Some ladies have very developed prostates, some don't. So it isn't really true to say all women have g spots. I got the info on this after many years for searching for my g spot! Never found it however but it doesn't bother me at all. Yes you can play with clit during sex.

As for the bladder problem: sometimes when you have intercourse, skin from the surrounding area of her body, gets pulled in when you put mr trousersnake in, so bacteria from her vagina gets to the bladder area. The trick is to make sure this doesn't happen. You don't need doctor and antibiotics for bladder infections usually. Get her to drink cranberry juice, a not just a glass of it but a full carton as it turns the bladder alkaline rather than acid, killing infection. All this info is from doctors I've seen over the years for bladder infections. Don't ignore a bladder infection as can lead to more serious kidney infection. Peeing after sex may also help her. Hope this helps.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies.
re the bladder inflammation, it is something she has had for a few years. She is seeing a specialist now so it looks like its all sorted, finally!

The main thing is how do I stimulate her with my hand during sex? I mean, would it not be awkward? Physically awkward I mean. How does it practically wook?

I guess I would just like to be able to make her come during sex, rather than before or after.

Appreciate the replies guys.

LegacyUser

I never thought I'd be giving advice on sex over the internet but here goes:

Its easy to stimulate her that way when in spooning/doggie position just reach the hand over. In fact easy in any position just back off a little with your own motions. Stimulate her and let her move on you. These days I often do the finger/clit part myself while having sex and let him get on with it. Though I wouldn't have been confident enough to do it when younger. Enjoy!