Little bit scared...is it me?

LegacyUser

Hi wonder if I can get some advice?I am single for the first time in many years and just recently started seeing a really cute guy. My last,long relationship was very abusive physically and mentally..in short for many years I was the "woman who walked into doors".
My problem is that my BF lives a fair distance away and cos of this he can't see me as often as we would both like. Now a friend of mine is married to a man (I will call him S) and S has started txting my mobile at all hours with jokes(some are bit risque). He also sends up to 5 emails a day to me for the last 2 months. Now the emails at first had other peoples' addresses on them, now they don't and are not general or jokes but more like personal letters and end in "I'm thinking of you". He has in the last month started dropping by my house, at first he used to be coming up the road when my teen was walking home from school and be giving the teen a lift. Now I got my teen to stop getting in the car(the teen is much bigger than S). But S is still dropping by...and now when he does I am scared and am hiding and not answering the door. S phoned my mobile and said "I am dropping by with this leaflet that is useful for you" and when I said I wouldn't be home he still came by the house and rang the doorbell..I hid again and he went away.
Then I got an email from him saying that he knew I was on the Lone Parent Allowance, and have to live alone,and I was in his prayers and he was thinking of me(again)
I haven't told my BF about this as we have only been together awhile and he has had to go abroad over Christmas and I don't want to spoil it by worrying him.
I sent an email to S wishing him and his wife a Happy New Year from me and BF, this is the first time I said anything about BF to either of them.. I just feel so creeped out by S.
Now I still live alone but am afraid if I get more assertive that S will tell the social I live with
BF when I don't and me and my kids will lose the LPA and we will have nothing. I can't sleep worrying. Sorry this is so long,just really up the walls and need advice. Thanks

McGinty

Hi Op

To begin with, you have nothing to worry about, so what if you are dating, you are not cheating the system, they have to prove that, via letters and his items in your house, and since you are dating you are doing nothing wrong. That ****er S is in the wrong, so tell him to go away, and if he bothers you you will talk with his wife, that should scare him, I do know where you have been Ive had sad saps do the same, it is disheartening but you have to tell them to be ****ed.

Kirnsy

you need to talk to his wife or the guards asap.

this guy is making you hide in your own house = harassment.