Did a pretty silly thing last night.. Head melted

xzanti

Thanks for replies... Case has been closed.

omb0wyn5ehpij9

Tell your boyfriend. You don't want him to hear it off his friend first!

nomorebadtown

yeah not the best move in the world but in fairness if this guy really is a "big time player" then it was all gonna come out eventually and this girl will thank you in the long run. dont stress too much.

abouttobebanned

That was a pretty low thing to do.

Lainey

Its crap auld feeling the next day alright, only thing you can say is you were pissed, it slipped out and your sorry (to you bf).. in fairness, he may take some of the blame, he should never have told you in the first place.. as for the gf, i think it prob was the sneakiness of the other girl pretending to be her friend that rose you the most, i know that would piss me off..

i think everyone knows that crap feeling the morning after so i suppose the main thing really is this time next month (probably next week) it will be forgotten..

just put it into the little box in your head that holds all the things you don't want to think about, its healthier that way

fuzzywiggle

I'd tell him before his best mate does. It's not awful what you did, it'd piss me off too. Say it to your boyfriend in a real caual way. Play it down! You sound very paniced but relax, you didn't even give all the information so it'll probably just blow over! Don't worry!

Mimikyu

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TerrorFirmer

If my girlfriend was cheating on me I wouldn't care whether the person reporting it was friend or stranger, I'd just be glad to know.

Likewise, I believe anyone that would have the cheek to get angry or start the fight you're envisioning over the exposing of their own such despicable behavior.....I won't go there.

omb0wyn5ehpij9

TerrorFirmer wrote: »

If my girlfriend was cheating on me I wouldn't care whether the person was friend or stranger, I'd just be glad to know.

+1

nomorebadtown

abouttobebanned wrote: »

That was a pretty low thing to do.

harsh.i dont see how it was 'low'...ill timed and ill thought out maybe...but not low.

Miss Fluff

First of all tell your BF exactly what happened. And try not to worry, your worry is probably compounded by "the fear" so try not to stress unduly, it will probably blow over.

xzanti

Thanks for the replys... I told him, he's ok.. He just seemed pleased that I told him... The friend texted me just now too.. she seems fine.. hopefully as someone above said, it will blow over..

Stones85

xzanti wrote: »

Thanks for the replys... I told him, he's ok.. He just seemed pleased that I told him... The friend texted me just now too.. she seems fine.. hopefully as someone above said, it will blow over..

Good for you I suppose.

Unless I'm related to someone whos OH was cheating and I had hard evidence, not he said she said, I would've kept my mouth shut. The truth always comes out pretty quickly.

BraziliaNZ

this is why you should never tell girlfriends things like this, they just can't keep secrets

RoosterIllusion

Telling her about her boyfriend cheating is on thing, but withholding some of the facts and lying to her to make it look out to be a little less bad than it is was stupid. You should have told her the truth or told her nothing.

Either way, +1 for telling people they are being cheated on, I would be dropping a lot of friends if they knew someone was cheating on me and never said anything.

mbren

I think you did right to tell her if you know for sure that her boyfriend is a cheater..and you obviously do if your boyfriend tells you.

Try not to worry about it anyway.

YDMHSSB

xzanti wrote: »

At the time it seemed like a good idea, I'd want to know if it was me etc..

would you? this gets me, id rather not know as long as it wasnt public knowledge and everybody wasnt talking about it behind my back. people make mistakes, you should have kept your mouth shut and said nothing!

Ainekav

abouttobebanned wrote: »

That was a pretty low thing to do.

How the hell was it low! She told a friend (presumably) the truth about a boyfriend who obviously isnt good enough for her and acquaintance who isnt worth sh1t. fair play id want to be told in the long run.

Dragan

abouttobebanned wrote: »

That was a pretty low thing to do.

Why? Don't expect the rest of the world to indirectly lie just because you have a secret.

Mouthy cheats always get whats coming to them one way or the other.

seahorse

The only thing you did wrong here was not tell your friend the whole truth. You told her an edited version which makes her partner look like some poor unfortunate man who has to, on account of magnetism beyond his control, beat them off with a stick.

That type of misinformation is no use to a woman who has a cheater for a partner. A woman in her shoes obviously needs to know the truth. I hope for your sake you've heard the last of this but don't be surprised if you haven't, because if I was in that girls shoes and I did discover the truth I'd be knocking on your door wanting to know why you told me a load of BS.

St Bill

Some people would want to be told if they're being cheated on. However some people would rather not know, and if they were told, they'd shoot the messenger.
This might be a reason, and the fact that her friend would be hurt, why the OP didn't tell her friend the full story. On top of this, if the boyfriend turned out to be a total bullsh*tter, he could twist things and make life very difficult for the OP and her friend. It's dangerous to underestimate the delusion of a person who thinks he's happiness is more important than the lives and happiness of the people around him.