Do I Need Marriage Counselling

LegacyUser

I am at the end of my tether,

I am 32 and have been with my wife for 12 years married for 7.
We have 2 kids aged 5 and 2.
I have a Mother Father and Sister and my wife hates them.

We argue about my family on christmas and the girls birthdays. Three times a year and the argument lasts for a week.

She says I side with her inlaws (My Family) in all these arguments, I believe I am protecting them from her.

Her family has been in serious melt down for as long as I know her, I feel she is projecting this on mine

if someone is out there with my prediciment please make yourself known

I currently want to leave but I love her and my two kids.

Kirnsy

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I currently want to leave

i think you do need marriage counselling man.

it sounds like a professional could help you overcome these differences or help you understand where you want to go with this relationship.

Trinity

What reasons does she give for hating them?

Do you always side with them whether she is in the right? Can you give an example of a row?

I dont mean to pry but on occasion i have argued with my OH over his mother, sometimes i was right sometimes i was wrong, i absolutely harbour no ill feelings towards her though, however its a terribel position to be in to have to chose between you family and your wife and children.

jessbeth

You shouldn't side with your family against your wife. Your wife is your family now. You're 32 years old and can't be siding with Mom and Dad over your wife and children. I understand that her hatred may not be justified and it would probably help if you both went to see someone where you could deal with the issues together but don't let it tear you both apart.

Storm_rages

Marriage counseling could not hurt.

Its hard to give advice without knowing what the arguments are about, your wife could be totally in the right and your family could be, who knows! Either way it has damaged your relationship with your wife so its time to get this sorted out once and for all.

Victor

Sounds like family counselling might also be useful.

Keith186

Best to try counselling rather than the least appealing and easy option of walking out.