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Need Advice - Just Friends or More?

  • 28-12-2008 2:46pm
    #1
    olazabal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27 ✭


    Ladies, a little advice would be much appreciated.

    Situation is I am 29 and single, never had much success with girls through my own shyness. I would be considered quite good looking, a decent fella and good craic.

    3 years ago I began work with this girl and we have become very good friends since. She has since moved on to bigger and better things but we remain in contact speaking on the phone several times a week, meeting up every few weeks or so.

    She is also single and had a painful break-up about 18 months ago.

    I noticed about 12 months ago that I had feelings for this girl but did not say anything at the time. She was a friend first and foremost and was going through a difficult time after her break-up.

    She now seems to be over that and is definitely on the look out for a new fella.

    I have been a coward and not said anything to her about the way I feel and in fact I can't get her out my mind. I look forward to seeing her, to getting her calls, to hearing her laugh.......... basically i'm in deep.

    I just don't know how she feels? She is flirtatious, but would be with other guys. She definitely would take an interest in me personally but I don't know if she ever though about us being anything else other than friends.

    Now I know us guys generally mess up these situations and see friendship as offering something more. What I would like to know is what signs should I be looking for to see if she would like something more? And also how should I approach telling her how I feel? My head is wrecked with the situation and I have to take action now for my own sanity!


Comments

  • #2
    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47,365 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    Moved from The Ladies Lounge


  • #3
    Creamy Goodness
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,584 ✭✭✭✭Creamy Goodness


    There are three situations

    1. Ask her; she says yes. Happy days.

    2. Ask her; she says no. Can you live with that? Is it worth risking the friendship?

    3. Do nothing and let it eat at you from the inside wondering what might have happened.

    I can't tell you which one to pick and it depends on how you analyze the situation.

    Good luck in whatever you choose and come back ad tell us how it went. We don't get enough "how it went" posts here


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