need insight

LegacyUser

Okay firstly this may be slightly long, for that I'm sorry.

Okay where to begin, basically I've got a slight squint in my eye, I'm a young male I take care of myself, go to the gym 4 times a week eat as healthy as I can etc. I'm not a bad looking guy for instance I was out last night and a few girls came over chatting to me (not blowing my trumpet here far from it) I've had a few girlfriends, one for 3 years one for 2 years was seeing a girl for a few months recently, Only thing is I'm so insecure about my eye

I treat women correctly when I'm going out with them, none of this malarky of games / lieing playing the field etc, I try and be romantic as I can few surprises here and there etc, But I always end up finishing the relationship as tbh I don't want to get to close, Kind of a how can this girl feel attracted to me etc, People I've talked to about this said they didn't notice until I brought it up, it's miniscule at best they say, I just can't believe this

I've talked to an eye surgen who REFUSES to do eye surgery, I'm in Uni at the moment, have been working part time but recently found out no job after xmas, thats fine was only an xmas contract and with the economy in the state it is I wasn't expecting to have a job after xmas, My query is I've been reading about 'vision therapy' It's eye excercises that will correct the squint in your eye, I've read positive feedback on websites but the only clinic close by is in England in stevenege, close to london I believe. I assume the treatment would be weekly sessions of a set amount of months, I was honestly thinking of packing everything in and heading over to get this, their is no age restriction on the treatment and adults of 30upwards have said to be cured. Am I silly to think of even trying this

It's just effecting me so badly, the way I talk to people, not having the confidence to make eye contact, not being in a fully functional relationship, holding back as I don't want to get to close, I just want 2009 to be a year to enjoy, not a year of apprehension every saturday night I want to go out

Really sorry for the ramble, I just had to let this out........

Overheal

My size-8 sister is going out with some bloke who has a birth defect: the whole left side of his face looks like its burnt and his left optical nerve was never fully developed, so it always looks away, squinted and dull - he's legally blind in his left eye. They've been in a relationship for quite some time now.

I always end up finishing the relationship as tbh I don't want to get to close, Kind of a how can this girl feel attracted to me etc

That is your only problem. This is all in your head - not on your face.

the glass woman

Hi OP, I had a squint in my eye when i was a child so i know what you're talking about. It was corrected by two operations plus patches, plus glasses for many years, although you mentioned yours was only slight so maybe it isn't as bad as mine was.. Anyway my question is why on earth will your eye specialist not operate on you and have you got recommendations for a second opinion?

Beruthiel

Overheal wrote: »

That is your only problem. This is all in your head - not on your face.

Totally agree with Overheal on the above.
You are focusing on the wrong problem.
No amount of fixing your eye with make any diffenence until you fix your attitude towards yourself.
You badly need to work on your confidence and self esteem.
I sliced a good part off my lip during a motorbike accident, it left me with a perm. lump which is very obvious. It's never bothered me and certainly hasn't prevented me from living the life I want.
People will always pay more attention to the kind of person you are, they will always be drawn to a happy, confident, secure in yourself person no matter what they look like.