Sex without condoms??

LegacyUser

Hi peoples!!

Apologies in advance if this has already been discussed, had a quick nosy round but couldn't find anything similar ...

Basically, I'm getting married in 3 weeks (yay!!) My hubby to be and I have always used both pill and condoms ... however, once we get married, we're planning on just using the pill ... ideally we wouldn't like to get pregnant just straight away, but if it were to happen, it wouldn't be the disaster it might have been a few years ago. So, although we know we won't have quite the same level of protection, we're willing to take that chance.

However, according to some of my friends, sex is very different without condoms, and apparently can be painful for the guy the first few times?? I want our wedding night to be special for both me and him, would be kind of crap if he was in agony

Just wondering does anyone else have experience of this?

By the way, STIs are not an issue, as we are each other's first (everybody say awwww!!)

Thanks all!!

HouseHippo

Once you have plenty of lubricant you should be grand just make sure his foreskin isn't too tight.
I would also suggest you preform oral on each other before hand,this should make it easier for "entry". Should start to feel great after a few mins,when you get into the swing of things.

Also make sure you aren't too nervous before hand this will inevitabley make you dry and him uncomfortable,relax and pretend it's like any other time you had sex.

Madame Razz

Yes it feels different but in a very good way:D

No, it doesn't hurt, if you turn each other on anyway there shouldn't be any problem....in fact it should be better than ever!!

Enjoy;)

Overheal

Unregistered wrote: »

By the way, STIs are not an issue, as we are each other's first (everybody say awwww!!)

Its mythology to think one of you mightn't be born a dormant carrier of some random STD. Get checked anyway.

CathyMoran

The only thing I will say is that it is a lot more messy for you but that is part of the fun>>>congrats on your impending nuptuals>

Curvy Vixen

And as an aside, I wouldn't leave it til the wedding night...trust me, it's generally never as romantic as you expect at that stage

It's normally been a long week, a very long day, and throw in to the mix a lot of booze and the main event rarely seems to happen that night.

Either plan it for the following morning or night or maybe slip off to 'get some air' together maybe between the meal and the reception.

Have a good day

samhail

I was with a girl that said she prefered it without condoms... hmmm. in my niavity i didnt notice a difference i was getting some !!!

Irlbo

For me,and Im not advocating safe sex,condoms are one of the worst inventions ever created,I find they take all the pleasure and passion out of sex,absolutely no feeling and if you have a larger lad then average,they dont fit,and squeeze life out of you,break regulary,therefore I never wear them,we use the pill,mind you we had two kids young,but Id rather have a million kids then a lifetime of sh*t sex!

LegacyUser

Irlbo wrote: »

For me,and Im not advocating safe sex,condoms are one of the worst inventions ever created,I find they take all the pleasure and passion out of sex,absolutely no feeling and if you have a larger lad then average,they dont fit,and squeeze life out of you,break regulary,therefore I never wear them,we use the pill,mind you we had two kids young,but Id rather have a million kids then a lifetime of sh*t sex!

Agreed

Kya1976

what?? I wouldn't worry about what your friends said tbh... Sex is great with or without a condom!

Wibbs

manukahoney wrote: »

Yes it feels different but in a very good way:D

No, it doesn't hurt, if you turn each other on anyway there shouldn't be any problem....in fact it should be better than ever!!

Enjoy;)

Agreed. Have to say from the male point if view(IE mine:D) it's sooooooo much better without.

homerun_homer

Agreed, he'll love it without. Pain? Don't worry about it, in fact don't even think about it.

Kooli

Overheal wrote: »

Its mythology to think one of you mightn't be born a dormant carrier of some random STD. Get checked anyway.

How could they be a 'dormant carrier' of an STD if they have both only slept with each other??

For them to get checked would be to imply they don't trust or believe each other

And enjoy sex without condoms, it is SOOOOO much better! Although to be honest I don't really know why you're using them as the pill is much more reliable anyway - if one of them were to fail, it would be the condom

LegacyUser

Kooli wrote: »

How could they be a 'dormant carrier' of an STD if they have both only slept with each other??

For them to get checked would be to imply they don't trust or believe each other

And enjoy sex without condoms, it is SOOOOO much better! Although to be honest I don't really know why you're using them as the pill is much more reliable anyway - if one of them were to fail, it would be the condom

You can be born with aids, and also pickup other infections from your mother before you are born. Obviously the chances of this are extremely small, but one cannot simply assume people are 100% clean because they are virgins.

Kooli

Unregistered wrote: »

You can be born with aids, and also pickup other infections from your mother before you are born. Obviously the chances of this are extremely small, but one cannot simply assume people are 100% clean because they are virgins.

You can be born with HIV, not AIDS. And to be honest I think the OP would know by now if she or her mother were HIV positive, presuming she is an adult (and I think that's a fairly safe assumption!)

I'm never one for presuming your partner is STI-free, but in this situation, I think it's a fairly safe bet!!

Enjoy, OP!! You'll never look back!

Smyth

However, according to some of my friends, sex is very different without condoms

Yes, it is very different. From a male perspective...a very 'good' different.

apparently can be painful for the guy the first few times?? I want our wedding night to be special for both me and him, would be kind of crap if he was in agony

If he can have sex with you on a pleasurable level with the condom, without will be just fine.

One thing of note though, for you and him.
The sensation a man feels without a condom is so great that it could cause him to finish in a shorter period of time. Beaware of this....especially if it's his first time without.

I'm sure you guys will find plenty of time to experiment.

Have fun!

Bottle_of_Smoke

However, according to some of my friends, sex is very different without condoms, and apparently can be painful for the guy the first few times??

Not true for me anyway

I haven't looked into how true this is. I'm sure someone more educated on the matter will be alone shortly.
But I have heard from friends that they have had trouble conceiving right away when they chose to. Because of the effect of the pill on their fertility.
To be honest, if I was me. I'd ditch the pill and rely on the condoms.

AARRRGH

Overheal wrote: »

Its mythology to think one of you mightn't be born a dormant carrier of some random STD. Get checked anyway.

Ahhh... that's being a bit paranoid.

unregistered wrote:

However, according to some of my friends, sex is very different without condoms, and apparently can be painful for the guy the first few times?? I want our wedding night to be special for both me and him, would be kind of crap if he was in agony

You are worrying about nothing. It going to be great. Enjoy your wedding.