Does it get better,or is it just me

LegacyUser

in my mid 20s,i suffered from depression for years,anyways i was in and out of jobs,and always hoped life would get better,everyone says im nice,but i dont think the know how lonesome i am,my realtionship with women was always a hurtful one,i was always the one been walked over,not intentially sometimes,sometimes i depended on the internet to keep me sane,making online friends,i know i was probably crazy for doing that,and i know sometimes i was wasteing my time,this christmas is like my birthdays,always end up alone,im sorry if this sounds like a broken record,but i get really sick of it all at times,sometimes i think if your a complete bastard in life you do well,i sometimes wish could wake up someday and live a happy life,i know life is what you make it,i have tried really hard,sometimes i know its my personailty that does the damage because im the strong silent type,other times i can be very poetic/emotional with my feelings,im sorry for pouring this out on everyone

miders

Hi,

my heart goes out to you. trying to live life with depression is so hard but im so glad at least your trying.
dont give up because life is so unpredictable it can change in an instant.dont stop trying,you deserve happiness.

[Jackass]

Hang in there OP, all is not lost. I know quite a lot about depression and I know how difficult it can make life.

I also know a lot about how difficult the pain of dealing with a broken relationship is too.

But you know sometimes I think it's the people who have had the most suffering in their life that makes them the happiest. (as strange as that sounds)

The reason is I'm sure there are people who are complete d!cks who sail through life and never really experience bad times and who don't treat people that well, but I think unless you've gotten through the bad times you'll never be able to appreciate the good times on the same level as somebody who's had to really work hard to get there.

Trust me, your break will come. Sometimes when your down and you feel like you've tried everything, patience is the most difficult virtue to call upon, but you will get your time. You'll meet somebody who really loves you and will make you feel like the happiest person on the planet and things around you will get a lot easier too.

In the mean time, try and make the most of what you have, reach out to any friends that you have and try to be social. Sometimes that's the hardest thing, but really push yourself. It's when you're really down that you have to make yourself get up - make plans, any plans to give you motivation and desire to work towards something.

Confide in family and build up those relationships. The most valuable thing in anybodys life, no matter who they are, is the people around them - especially the ones that love them.

LegacyUser

ive been to counciling and stuff,done the medication,now im clean and sober,i guess it always be a part of me,i get on well with people,sometimes i fall for them,so sometimes i have to keep that aside cause i know they dont feel the same,usually i do good for them,then they leave or get on with their own life and meet someone,so i try to keep that pain or stuff too myself,so i keep moving along,sometimes ppl ask me whats new in my life,there isnt usually much,probably explains reason some dont talk to me much

moe_sizlak

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in my mid 20s,i suffered from depression for years,anyways i was in and out of jobs,and always hoped life would get better,everyone says im nice,but i dont think the know how lonesome i am,my realtionship with women was always a hurtful one,i was always the one been walked over,not intentially sometimes,sometimes i depended on the internet to keep me sane,making online friends,i know i was probably crazy for doing that,and i know sometimes i was wasteing my time,this christmas is like my birthdays,always end up alone,im sorry if this sounds like a broken record,but i get really sick of it all at times,sometimes i think if your a complete bastard in life you do well,i sometimes wish could wake up someday and live a happy life,i know life is what you make it,i have tried really hard,sometimes i know its my personailty that does the damage because im the strong silent type,other times i can be very poetic/emotional with my feelings,im sorry for pouring this out on everyone

hi there
like everyone who suffers from depression , thier was a defining event in your life in which things came to a head , a tipping point which sparked of your depression , i know exactly what and who caused mine and i suspect you do too , personally speaking as someone who has suffered for 10 years now , i dont believe you can ever be completly rid of depression once it enters your life , oh and as regards the poster who said life can change in split second , that only works in a bad way ( car crash , sudden death etc ) , nothing will change in your life unless you make it happen but even then the depression has to be fought , it will try and beat you , if you let it get on top of you , it will keep telling you that things cant be improoved upon , my advice is to be brave and perhaps make some immediate but at the same time realistic changes in your life , people who suffer from depression often try and reach for the stars during periods of mania and it nearly always flops , have modest goals , your not that strong or you wouldnt have got depression in the 1st place but you can still be a successfull person and a happy person

good luck

Con.

Hi OP
new here,

i can empathise with what your going through. basically i just want to reinforce what other posters have said here, keep your chin up and try to work on making changes for the better.

use the new year to your advantage as a time for this.

make plan's for what you would like to change and/or try. give it a right go and try to stick with it and see how you get on. i'll be taking my own advise too as i feel i have nothing to lose at this stage by doing so. maybe this will give your life the kickstart it needs now

take care

SueWho

OP I suffered from depression a few years ago (was on meds then) but I got through it by keeping a diary to get those bad thoughts out of my head and by always believing that if I just kept focusing on positive things and keeping myself busy with productive things (then college work) that I would eventually start to feel the positive thoughts I had been effectively forcing myself to think. And the positive steps I took began to feel positive after a while. Because depression isn't failing to see the positive things in life, it's failing to feel them. And you just keep pushing towards that and you'll get there. Don't give up.

In response to posters who have said that depression sort of always remains with you... I think the feeling of depression can disappear forever as it did for me but I purposely never forget that time in my life as a way of never letting it happen again- to the detriment of some of my friendships I have had to distance myself somewhat from some of my good friends who are often very negative (bit*ching, complaining about work etc). This may seem selfish, but I know that I don't have the mental capacity to take on all that negativity and not be affected by it. That's just my coping mechanism. Really try to be around people who are positive and happy- it will help you.

You will feel happy again someday X