How do u show ur really sorry

sickpuppy32

i've messed up, not for the first time but this time its big. By my actions I've betrayed someones trust who i love deeply and i dont know what to do. I feel like the biggest scumbag, i'm so ashamed but my words of sorrow seem hollow even to me. A bunch of flowers wont clean up my mess. Anyone any suggestions ?

Ruu_Old

Not much details but give the individual time and lots of space.

Nothingcompares

are you a guy and she a girl?

hussey

don't try to buy affection, as ruu said time and space and slowly show you can change

you cannot change the past, so live for now

sickpuppy32

i tried to take advantage of her when she was drunkenly asleep beside me. Its the most evil thing i've ever done in my life and i'm so ashamed of myself.

Nothingcompares

you're ****ed. don't go near her until she approaches you. tell her you love her. maybe you can be friends in the long run.

Nevyn

By NEVER doing it again.
Give them space let them process and clam down and come talk to you.
Don't go looking to talk to them to ease your guilt.

sickpuppy32

she came around to me today and we had a chat, i felt so pathetic, didn't try to make excuses, thing is we have a kid together from when we were a couple a few years back so we constantly see each other, your all right though, i should give her lots of space, call it selfish but i really dont want our mutual frinds to find out what a scumbag i;ve been. Really dont know what to say to them when they ask me whats the story.

Nothingcompares

well you sound like you're giving yourself a hard time over it. which is fair enough, you deserve it. do you like her still?

sickpuppy32

love her but she doesn't love me,she finds me physically repulsive i think - she definitely does now. Its a fact i thought i'd learnt to live with and move on so we'd become really good friends but i've just messed it all up bigtime. Seriously if I didn't ahve a kid i'd have blown my brains out the other night when i realised wat i had tried to do.

Overheal

sickpuppy32 wrote: »

love her but she doesn't love me,she finds me physically repulsive i think - she definitely does now. Its a fact i thought i'd learnt to live with and move on so we'd become really good friends but i've just messed it all up bigtime. Seriously if I didn't ahve a kid i'd have blown my brains out the other night when i realised wat i had tried to do.

You still have unrequited feelings for her: A friendship will never work out under those circumstances. you have to remove this person from your life entirely or its just going to get worse for you. I've been there, and I think plenty others have too.

sickpuppy32

i cant remove her from my life - even thouogh i made a fair go at it the other night with my disgusting actions - we have a kid together. Seriously thinking about moving away to a job down the country, still will be involved with my child though.

Nevyn

So you got too close and screwed up. It can happen at least you know that it wasn't the
right way to go about things and you are going to have to deal with it.

Yup it sucks that you will still have to face her and have her in your life but tbh suck it up
and make sure that from this point going forward you never lay a finger on her again with out clear consent and are the utmost gentleman in deeds, manner and words.

Your actions messed things up it will be your actions which determine how things will go.
If you want to be part of your son's life and make sure he never screws up in such a fashion then set a better example.

sickpuppy32

Thaedydal wrote: »

make sure that from this point going forward you never lay a finger on her again with out clear consent and are the utmost gentleman in deeds, manner and words.

Your actions messed things up it will be your actions which determine how things will go.
.

think thats got to be my new life philosopy , thanks

Katgurl

but it sounds like she's forgiving you or will in a while if she came round to talk to you?

does she know how you feel about her, have you told her?

how long ago did you break up?

Colonel_McCoy

Depends what you did............more details please

Aurora Borealis

Leave her alone until such time as she says otherwise. I cannot say that enough!!

I had this happen me and it messed me up big time. Granted the guy in question was not an ex lover or indeed meant to be anywhere near the bed I was in but that didn't make a difference to him apparently and I woke to him removing my underwear. I had fallen into bed fully clothed. To this day I know in my heart and soul if I hadn't woken up when I did I'd be in a very different situation now and to be honest I really felt like I had been physically assaulted in every sense I felt so violated. That night knocked me for six for a long time.


You have a child together so you have to have some interaction but be prepared for her to set the pace on that for some time to come.