Noticed another girl

LegacyUser

I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 years. Lately I have started to notice somebody else. She is a bit shy, I like her alot even though I don't know alot about her. What should I do?

Talk about brevity lol!

Well I'll be brief too..

1.Talk to new girl.
2.Make friends.
3.Decide who you want to be with.

If you are unable to do a whole lot of 1 and 2 there then forget about it.

OR and theres a 4.. and 5..

4.Look for another new girl
5.Rinse and Repeat 1 to 3

In all of the above a little analysis as to why you are looking for someone else would be good and to be fair to your current squeeze

tobiesheba

Everybody notices people, even when they are in relationships. I think it boils down to two things. You're secure in your current relationship and can appreciate somebody else without acting on it or there is something lacking in your current relationship which has set you looking. If it's the former just look and don't act. If it's the latter you need to ask yourself serious questions about why your current relationship isn't what you want it to be and most importantly is it salvagable i.e. do you want to work at it to make it what you want it to be.

Cokehead Mother

Sleep with her and move on. You don't want to wreck your current relationship over a crush.

tobiesheba

Cokehead Mother wrote: »

Sleep with her and move on. You don't want to wreck your current relationship over a crush.

And what about the object of his affections? He's got an itch so he can just use her as a scratching post? There's a bigger picture than just his attraction to this girl - she's a person too and deserves due consideration.

testicle

tobiesheba wrote: »

And what about the object of his affections? He's got an itch so he can just use her as a scratching post? There's a bigger picture than just his attraction to this girl - she's a person too and deserves due consideration.

Don't bring morals into this!

tobiesheba

testicle wrote: »

Don't bring morals into this!

Why not? If the op didn't have some morals he would have already have done something about this girl ergo it's a moral issue for him. Or at least that's how I read it.

MagicMarker

Unregistered wrote: »

I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 years. Lately I have started to notice somebody else. She is a bit shy, I like her alot even though I don't know alot about her. What should I do?

Cop on?

If you want to pursue this girl then break up with your girlfriend.

End of.

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

Mr. Incognito

you have a crush.

if happens.

imagine her taking a dump. that happens too. we tend to have overly romantic notions of people till we get to know them.

you'll get over it.

meganj

Three year itch! That's all it is, your bored of your girlfriend and all her whiny ways or whatever it is. She's not the girl she was when you first started dating.

Instead of looking for excitement elsewhere, why don't you try finding it at home first.

Also think about how you'd feel if it was you gf thinking what your thinking!

SamuelFox

Man, be awful careful here. Far away hills are always greener when you are in a relationship, and by encouraging these thoughts you are playing with fire.
If you are having problems in your relationship, or you feel it’s not right, then you need to make a decision based solely on the facts, i.e. the reality of how you feel and what you see happening in the future. Complicating it by introducing a fantasy person (you don’t know her, that’s all she is at the moment) will just mess up your head. If you have been going out with your girlfriend for 3 years you have something serious going on, don’t mess it up without having thought a lot first. If its right to break up with your girlfriend then do it, but don’t base it on an imagined view of what this other girl may be like.

Best of luck with the decision!