The pill

LegacyUser

I have been going out with my gf for quite a while now, and i'll admit i love her more than anyone i've ever met in my whole life to the point that i know i can trust her with anything. And to top it off i know she thinks exactly the same of me. Now the thing is we lead quite an active sex life, and as we are young i happily continue to use protection to prevent any mini-me's growing, but also to prevent transmission of any sti's. But we were talking earlier and she asked if i think she should go on the pill, as she doesnt see us breaking up any time soon. I was unsure and just said its up to her as i didnt know how to react. I know it will prevent her from getting pregnant but its the lack of sti protection that i'm kinda worried about. She is my first so i'd be confident in saying there is little worry of her catching anything from me, but i know she's been in 2 previous relationships in which she had unprotected sex, and since her last one and before i met her she had been known for ending up in random peoples houses every night she went out. I know she is clean from any infections as far as i'm aware, so should i really worry about it? And is the pill really effective in preventing any unwanted pregnancies?

LolaLuv

I think it would be perfectly reasonable for you to suggest that you both get tested before going bareback. If she refuses, that's a problem.

wow, someone responsible looking for advice, how refreshing!

It is absolutely not unreasonable for you to ask her to be tested, say that you will both get checked, it doesn't matter that she's your first, it will let her know that you care just as much about her being infected as yourself. The pill is quite an effective method of birth control as long as it is used correctly, no form of contraception is 100% effective though.

Best of luck.

AnonoBoy

If both of ye get tested then no worries.

Personally I'd continue to use condoms in addition to the pill but I'm just extra cautious myself.

LegacyUser

AnonoBoy wrote: »

Personally I'd continue to use condoms in addition to the pill but I'm just extra cautious myself.

Same here. The combination of pill+condoms is as safe as you're going to get.

BenGunn

Personally, I think condoms are rubbish and were I you I'd be glad not to have to use them anymore. I'm curious OP, have you ever tried it without them? Because to me the difference is like the difference between a Ferrari and a lawnmower. Condoms ruin so much of the sensation of sex (for the guy and the girl), I wouldn't even be bothered tbh.

As for testing, I'm pretty sure she'd find that insulting, you may aswell just call her a slut really, but if you think it's something you need to do then I'd broach the topic as tactfully as possible.

yeh real good advice ben gunn, sorry but you're an idiot, telling someone to give up using condoms with someone who has had unprotected sex with other people.... you're very clever.

humbert

Do suggest you both get tested, it's completely normal, unless you're a bit retarded(immature).

Sex without condoms is far better and my understanding is that if used correctly the pill is as effective as condoms.

Also, and you might be more concerned about this. If she's asking it probably means she wants to.

pandas

ccondom plus pill wouldn't have it any other way!!

i going out with my boyfriend 3 years at first without condom just pill but then we had to start using condoms aswell to be sure to be sure....

anyway didnt notice any major difference in sensation or whatever that dude is saying.

better safe than sorry!!!!!!!!!!;)

tobiesheba

I personally think it's kind of a progression when you move from using condoms to not - it's a trust thing. But before that happens it's good for both of you to go and get tested.