I think I have an STI

LegacyUser

I think I may have clymadia (not sure on the spelling). Think is I am married and had a 1 nite stand. Started getting syntoms over the last month or so which have gotten worse to the point that I looked up the syntoms and have guessed that its clymadia. ANyways I want to get it sorted but dont want to end up getting divorced because of a stupid 1 nite stand. I know that I was stupid and all that so posts to that effect are not going to help.
Any suggstion son how to handle this?

Wibbs

First of all go to a doctor/sti clinic and get yourself cleared. The one night stand while married is more of an issue longterm. IIRC you have to abstain from sex with your partner as you will likely transmit it to them who in turn will give it right back to you. STI's, the gift that keeps on giving. If you have had sex with your husband since(and the chances are high) then he will have to be told about his own sexual health.

wasper

Unregistered wrote: »

I think I may have clymadia (not sure on the spelling). Think is I am married and had a 1 nite stand. Started getting syntoms over the last month or so which have gotten worse to the point that I looked up the syntoms and have guessed that its clymadia. ANyways I want to get it sorted but dont want to end up getting divorced because of a stupid 1 nite stand. I know that I was stupid and all that so posts to that effect are not going to help.
Any suggstion son how to handle this?

You can even invent some medical condition to stop him/her looking for sex. But after all that , you have to sit down & reflect on the issue of a1 night stand.

Colonel_McCoy

Time to visit the clinic. You may need to tell your wife as you might have given it to her.

One night stand is another thing

MagicMarker

If you've slept with your partner since then you have to tell them so they can get tested.

If you don't want to get divorced then stop having sex with people other than your partner, simple really.

knoxor

Funny how a couple of us assume the sex of the OP, so far its 1 - 1, wonder how the score will end up....

Wibbs

Chlamydia is usually more symptomless in men, with more obvious symptoms in women, or so I gather, hence the gender assumption, but you're right it could be man or woman. Either way advice the same. Go to doc, inform partner, work on marriage.

MagicMarker

Have to say I assumed it was a woman and would have addressed her as such if it weren't for other posters referring to her (or him) as male.

passive

What I don't get is how they can be on the internet, posting here and have done enough research to convince themselves they have chlamydia, yet be "not sure on the spelling."

Go to doctor anyway, and tell partner.

MonsterMob

Go to the doctor, don't really know what the cure is for clymidia but if it comes in tablet form try and secretely grind it into their dinner or something....

CianRyan

MonsterMob wrote: »

Go to the doctor, don't really know what the cure is for clymidia but if it comes in tablet form try and secretely grind it into their dinner or something....

That couldn't be very dangerous if they don't have it, and even if they did, how would you feel if you found out some one was secretly feeding you medicine?

MagicMarker

MonsterMob wrote: »

Go to the doctor, don't really know what the cure is for clymidia but if it comes in tablet form try and secretely grind it into their dinner or something....

/facepalm

UsedtobePC

If the OP has done their research, they would by now found out that antibiotics is the only cure. It shouldn't take more than two weeks (some medical sources will argue that one week is enough). One thing to avoid: milk... oh yeah and sex.

LegacyUser

This can result in infertility. Presuming you've had unprotected sex with your partner since then and DON'T want her to become infertile you need to get to doctor asap, get it diagnosed and if you have ANYTHING you HAVE to tell your wife. She will find out eventually if you've given her anything so you might as well come clean at the earliest available opportunity.

Marksie

Actually its more commonly symptomless in women, about 75% than in men about 50%
Here is a link to the VHI website as backup.

http://www2.vhi.ie/topic/chlamydia

But thatb is really just by the by.

Now first off OP: diagnosing anything from the internet is a very risky and futile business.

The only way is to go to your GP or specialist clinic and get tested for the suite of STI infections.
If you have been having unprotected sex with your wife, then you have the possibly to contend with that you have infected her.
If you continue to do so and are infected, then the same risks apply.

It is best you go to a qualified professional and seek their advice and do it sooner rather than later

LegacyUser

Hi OP. I think you acted very irresponsibly especially since you are married. I have nothing against people having one night stands having had a few myself over a 12 month period before I went back into a proper relationship in September. I have always used protection when having sex be it in a casual or committed sexual relationship. If my boyfriend cheated on me it would be near unforgivable for me. You were married and for that you betrayed your husband's trust. I think you have to be upfront and tell him but be prepared for the consequences (divorce, seperation).

Go to the clinic and get it cured.

CianRyan

If I'm in a monogamous relationship and I get chlamydia, does it mean my partner has cheated on me?

Not necessarily. Many people carry the chlamydia bacteria for months or years without knowing it.

If this was honestly just one terrible accident in a time of weakness, then i guess, you could always say this was the case, if not, then you need to be up front and just tell your partner what you have done.

LegacyUser

I know you don't want to hear it but what you have done is nothing less than disgusting, I really do hope that you have not had sex with your partner since your one night stand. Even if you "think" you may have chlamydia, you may also have other STI's that you do not have any symptoms for, so you need to get straight to a doctor and get this sorted ASAP, unfortunately for you this is not something you can keep from your partner, as when you go for your tests you will be told that you will have to come back after a certain amount of time (could be 6 weeks??) to be retested, you won't be given the all clear until these test results are returned therefor, unless you plan on coming up with excuses every time your partner wants sex, prepare for questions.

If you have any further unprotected sex with your partner until you are given the all clear, you deserve alot more than divorce. Do not put others at risk because of your selfishness.

Bottle_of_Smoke

go to doc asap. symtpms are exactly the same as a urinary tract infection, might just be that

Toots

OP, I wouldn't start diagnosing yourself off the internet. Google can tell you a simple UTI is Prostate Cancer. Get yourself down to the doctor asap.

Many people carry the chlamydia bacteria for months or years without knowing it. If this was honestly just one terrible accident in a time of weakness, then i guess, you could always say this was the case, if not, then you need to be up front and just tell your partner what you have done.

This may well work, as long as you're completely sure it'll never happen again, and providing you haven't been married for years and years. How long ago was the one-night-stand? Also how long are you with your partner? I can't imagine he/she will believe you if you say you've been carrying Chlamydia for the past ten years. Besides, you may be panicking over nothing, it could be a kidney infection or something, the symptoms are similar. And I'd imagine having an untreated kidney infection for a month would be pretty nasty too. If you do have an STI, you will have to tell your spouse, how much detail you go into is up to you, however if you don't tell them, as Wibbs said, there's a good chance they could give it back to you. Don't do anything mental like trying to dose them with antibiotics without them knowing. They'll find out and then you'll be in a much worse situation. Get yourself to the doctor without delay, you may well be worrying over nothing.

davyjose

Unregistered wrote: »

Idont want to end up getting divorced because of a stupid 1 nite stand.

Trust me OP, you won't be getting divorced because of a 1 night stand. You'll be getting divorced because you're a selfish, dirty, diseased cheat, whose absent guilty conscience has been supplanted by a scratchy crotch. Your only option is to come clean, but that's not why you're here. You want an easy escape route. Sleep Well

togster

Wibbs wrote: »

Chlamydia is usually more symptomless in men, with more obvious symptoms in women, or so I gather, hence the gender assumption, but you're right it could be man or woman. Either way advice the same. Go to doc, inform partner, work on marriage.

As far as i am aware *ahem* it's the other way around. Men usually experience a burning sensation when they pee.

Terodil

CianRyan wrote: »

If this was honestly just one terrible accident in a time of weakness, then i guess, you could always say this was the case, if not, then you need to be up front and just tell your partner what you have done.

This suggestion is the worst one I've ever seen.

The OP cheated on his/her partner already which constitutes a massive breach of trust. S/he also possibly passed a nasty something on and may have to confess because of that -- the OP didn't even feel the need to come clean in the first place, it's only because of the suspected STI that s/he now considers making a move!

OP, you really need to come clean because you WANT to. Love, relationships, are founded on trust. You have betrayed that trust big time already, the worst you can do is trying to add more lies to the mess that you already have on your hands. Talking to your partner and confessing the one-night-stand is the only chance you'll ever have to repair it; s/he *might* forgive if the apology is earnest. S/he definitely won't if s/he finds out that you tried to cover it all up.

It's kinda sad that you required the STI to even give it a thought. The STI is the smallest problem you have, though that too requires immediate attention. See a doc, and take your partner too.

sunnydelight

Some STD’S can cause women to become infertile if they are left untreated.you have made a very big mistake and no one is your judge or jury. If you have any decency in you at all, tell your partner. they have a right to know about there own health. Now is the time to take responsibility for your own actions. Just do the right thing.

Nevyn

Go to your dr, find out what the issues is and then talk to your spouse.

davyjose posts in this forum are meant to be helpful, posting in such a manner again will get you banned from this forum.