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Feeling so low

  • 13-12-2008 1:08pm
    #1
    [Deleted User]
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    Was out at my x mas party last night and brought the boyfriend of 4 years along. Was having a great night till he announced that its over because I was flirting with a 18 yr old friend. Now there was no way I was flirting as im 10 yrs older than the child, we were just laughing and talking and my fella was right beside me.
    Anyway he went mad and started asking me loads of questions and said I was a liar ans stormed out of the hotel leaving me to foot the bill and spend 30 on the taxi home.
    Havent heard from him since. So 4 yrs is just thrown away like that.
    Needless to say im very depressed and angry at the moment. :(
    Should I leave him alone and see what happens or just forget the whole thing.


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  • #2
    MagicMarker
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    [quote=[Deleted User];58251772]Was out at my x mas party last night and brought the boyfriend of 4 years along. Was having a great night till he announced that its over because I was flirting with a 18 yr old friend. Now there was no way I was flirting as im 10 yrs older than the child, we were just laughing and talking and my fella was right beside me.
    Anyway he went mad and started asking me loads of questions and said I was a liar ans stormed out of the hotel leaving me to foot the bill and spend 30 on the taxi home.
    Havent heard from him since. So 4 yrs is just thrown away like that.
    Needless to say im very depressed and angry at the moment. :(
    Should I leave him alone and see what happens or just forget the whole thing.[/QUOTE]
    Forget the whole thing. If in his late 20's (i assume your bf is of similar age to you) he acts like this then you're better off without him.

    However, it has been 4 years, he needs to grow up though.
    Post edited by Boards.ie: Mike on


  • #3
    Wibbs
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    I agree. Bad sign in someone to be that emotionally incontinent and reactionary. I would suspect that this has been building up and this was an excuse of sorts. It's also possible he's under some stress elsewhere and it's coming out like this. I don't condone that though.

    Is this the actual first inkling of this kinda thing? Has something changed in both your lives recently on the couple front? 4 years is in the timeframe where a relationship goes into the transition time into really long term attachment. It's the most precarious time for most long term couples.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #4
    Drummerboy2
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    Being the XMas party I'm sure drink played some part in his reaction to your flirting. He probably wouldn't drink as much and can't handle the extra alcohol. It may have also played a part in your flirtation with the lad.. Reckon he is probably feeling just as low as you but probably a lot more embarrassed by his behaviour. I guess it boils down to, who gets in touch with who first.


  • #5
    Ivory CoolS Paperweight
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    Drummerboy2 wrote: »
    Being the XMas party I'm sure drink played some part in his reaction to your flirting. He probably wouldn't drink as much and can't handle the extra alcohol. It may have also played a part in your flirtation with the lad.. Reckon he is probably feeling just as low as you but probably a lot more embarrassed by his behaviour. I guess it boils down to, who gets in touch with who first.

    what flirting? she's said twice she wasn't, since she was 10 years older and just having a chat.
    unless just having a chat and laugh is flirting now :rolleyes:

    OP he sounds like a complete idiot. sorry to hear what happened.
    as has been said, you're better off if he pulls stunts like that


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