Approaching Girls!

LegacyUser

Ok, so here's my deal. I'm a 21 year old bloke in my final year in college. I've only had two relationships of any real note both of which I met through college and knew before I got with them. Neither worked out but I'm still good friends with both girls.

Anyway, at the moment I have i suppose you could say a 'crush' on a girl from another course but I don't know her or anything. My problem is I've never actually asked anyone out before and am clueless about how i should go about approaching this girl. I guess it's probably a confidence thing despite in general being a fairly outgoing person.

Coffea

If you see her around a lot you could maybe start by smiling at her and saying hello. Gradually build up to conversations. After a few weeks you'll have a bit of a rapport going.. then ask her out!

Flirt a bit so that she knows that you like her. That way she'll be expecting you to ask her out and have an answer prepared. If you just march up to her next week and ask her out she may be taken by surprise and automatically blurt out 'no'!!

That's my advice from a female perspective anyway Good luck getting to know her!!

johndaman66

I know where your coming from there my friend. In your situation even if you do get the opportunity to chat to this girl it is difficult and daunting as such to make a move on a complete stranger just out of the blue. I know as I would consider myself a relatively confident fella but when it comes to making moves on girls totally out of the blue forget about it...Would have to be introduced to the girl first.

But having said that too would it be a better idea to try to get introduced to her first and then maybe make a move. As you said you have a crush on her Im thinking she is a good looking girl and maybe theres an element of infacuation there and she may even be the totally wrong girl for you. Maybe if you were introduced to her too you may be able to build up a rapore and opportunity may arise more readily where you could ask her out. As oppossed to just going up to her and with all the nerves risk making a complete bo bo of it? Perhaps ye may have a mutual friend or a friend of a friend etc. You never know...

Enigma-88

If the problem is getting talking to her...just ask her female opinion on something, anything, you know how girls like to "blah blah", anything intresting (to girls ) to get her talking ..... after that, just be playful, tease her, give her silly nicknames, basically have fun with her and she'l associate being with you with having fun. what you dont want to do is come off like a wuss coz all you'l get is an akward nod of the head.with all due respect to the guy above hoping that you have a friend of a friend is a bit of a long shot in college..The confidence.... Sorry bro theres no magic cure for that one, but if its any help chances are she is just as self conscious and shy as any other girl...

Esel

Compliment her footwear.

Enigma-88

esel wrote: »

Compliment her footwear.

Hahaha why??

Esel

I've said too much!

Beruthiel

This isn't After Hours people.
Read the Charter with regards to unhelpful, off topic comments.
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Esel

I wasn't being OT. I have found that to be a great ice breaker.