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LegacyUser

Hi everyone,
Id consider myself a relatively good looking girl and have been told by others.. (sounds like a bad way to start off a post I know), however because of this fact I sometimes believe that people pay more attention to me over others, esp when giving a presentation in college or the likes, then I get v nervous and always screw up.. What the hell is going on and how can i stop this?! Its like too much confidence resulting in lower confidence.. It tends to upset me quite alot!! Im fairly confident in other aspects of my life and this just bugs me..

Thanks and sorry if its a lil stupid..

Burial

To me sounds more like nerves than anything else. Everyone has them. In a presentation no-one cares what you look like. A presentation isn't about how attractive/good-looking you are. It's more to do with the subject your presenting. If the subject was on video games I'm all ears, if it's on the reasoning of deciding on having an 8x8 chess board then I'm asleep, no matter whose talking...

K_P

I agree. It's normal to have nerves giving a presentation in front of people. You're over-analysing the situation and convincing yourself that you're getting more attention than others will only make your nerves worse.

There's nothing egotistical in thinking you're good-looking or having confidence in your appearance. In fact, it's great. But placing too much value in it isn't healthy.

I'm guessing you've had one too many unwelcome advances in the past and now you think everyone's looking at you in that way. They're not. So just try and relax.

carlrac

If you already have everyone's attention, why not use it to your advantage? That's how the advertising industry works... surely you're in a better situation than someone who's self conscious because they're ashamed of their appearance?

dblennon

I had a problem similar to this and I know it's different but it will help,

I did debating when i was in school and I would usually go last (rebute) as I was good at drawing the previous points and coming to a conclusion.

This did not translate well to presentations I would be super confidelnt right up until I was about to speak and it would all come crashing down in front of me.

I learned that i did not have enough imformation prepared on the subject, so I had to go over the speach in my head word for word at least 3 times this meant I knew how long it was going to last and gave me a good 1-2 minutes of material to talk about.

This also helps the nerves if that is having the paralysing effect