Maybe Bi?

LegacyUser

Hi. I'm new to this. I'm in a committed and sexually adventurous relationship. I always thought women were attractive but now I seriously think I am bi. I used to just want to look at or kiss women, but now I just love the curves, breasts, hair, skin. I want to touch and taste. I want to have sex with women. In my fantasies anyways...

My boyfriend and I have discussed it. He thinks its hot. And would ideally like to watch or have a threesome. Is this a stupid idea? Do these work out?

Maybe it's just a romanticized fetish? I can't ignore these feelings. I find myself looking at porn, dating sites and chatting to women online. It's a huge turn on (my boyfriend benefits from too) I would love to meet up with a girl (if they are even real and not some sad lonely boy). That's foolish I know.. meeting a stranger. It's just this urge in my head I can't shake. Just NSA experimenting. It's like an itch I need to scratch.

If I did hook up I have no experience. I feel like a horny teenage boy!! I'm scared of this whole thing. How do I go about meeting up or finding a willing girl? Wouldn't know what to do if I got with her. Haha!

I do think I owe it to myself to explore my sexuality but there seem to be many obstacles and maybe guilt. I don't know...

Sorry for the rambling and if this post offends anyone. Thanks for reading.

blathnaid21

Hi ,
i am a married woman for the last year and half and i've bein with my husband for 4 years.
last march i wonder what it would be like to be with a woman so i went on bebo and looked for women who wanted to have fun and i discussed it with my husband and he had no probelm whats so ever.infact he said to do something about it so i did. so anyway i made a bebo site and got with a girl in limerick which i went with her for 2 or 3 months and she was useless so then i got with this beautiful woman from aussie and she came to ireland and we had full on sex and the i met her in england again b4 she went back to aussie and the same happened again.
Hun people tell u that its cheating when no way its not cheating because if u tell your husband everything, its not cheating. its only cheating if u do not tell him. discuss it with your husband and he will tell u go ahead because thats what happened to me. i keep in contact with my girlfriend and we going to meet her in aussie next summer and the same will happen again and my husband loves the info and if you feel embarrassed email him about it. i told my husband that i wanted to sleep with women and then after i told him the details what happened and he just got a hard on over the details and hun when u sleep with women, the sex is a 100 times better with your husband always.thats my advice and experience for ya anyway so hope it helps and remember its not cheating.its only cheating if you do not tell him.
I was scared like you 2 and my husband just encouraged me more and more and when i got with women it was really cool.oh when u do have sex with a woman, your bf will want to have sex with you after because he be so turned on that you had sex with another woman.some people might tell you that your bf might want to get involved but i already told my hubby that i don't want him to be at the moment coz i'm only new to this so we'll see what happens.
Hope this helps.

Weidii

I split up with my boyfriend so I could explore my sexuality, I think it was a good way to do it because you don't have to report to anyone and you won't feel like you are cheating on anyone. Sex has always been more than just a "shag" for me, so I knew that I would get my emotions in a tangle if I had a boyfriend and a girl on the side going aswell. I think aswell that if I was a guy with a bi girlfriend I wouldn't want her to share herself with other people and I certainly wouldn't be comfortable with my current girl getting it on with men.

blathnaid21

Weidii wrote: »

if I was a guy with a bi girlfriend I wouldn't want her to share herself with other people and I certainly wouldn't be comfortable with my current girl getting it on with men.

Thats your opinion and thats grand but what if the other woman is also married and both husbands r letting us get it and they love it.I've already discussed it with my husband and he loves it and he don't complain whats so ever at all so its all great.

hot2def

blathnaid21 wrote: »

Thats your opinion and thats grand but what if the other woman is also married and both husbands r letting us get it and they love it.I've already discussed it with my husband and he loves it and he don't complain whats so ever at all so its all great.

and what if your eyes stray to another guy?

blathnaid21

hot2def wrote: »

and what if your eyes stray to another guy?

So what if i do?I look at guys and hubby looks at women but it don't mean we going to do anything about it because we don't do that and anyway i always tell hubby when guys check me out and i tell him what guys i like and he the same except its women.I love my hubby 2 much to sleep with another guy so i wouldn't do that anyway.Thats y theres love and honest and trust and repect we have for each other.

hot2def

cause having sex with women is different right? :rolleyes:


be careful, just because you've never loved one of these women doesn't mean you won't. Don't get me wrong - go for it - just be careful about rationalizing what counts and doesn't. it'll bite you in the ass.

blathnaid21

hot2def wrote: »

cause having sex with women is different right? :rolleyes:


be careful, just because you've never loved one of these women doesn't mean you won't. Don't get me wrong - go for it - just be careful about rationalizing what counts and doesn't. it'll bite you in the ass.

Yes having sex with a woman is different and my hubby knows the whole story. Guess what i'm in live with my gf and my hubby knows that also and he has no probelm with it at all. he loving this every bit as much as i am loving it. So none of this is going to bite me in the ass because i've bein up front and honest since day 1 bout everything so it won't bite me in the ass if i'm up front and honest.

hot2def

good for you


I stand by my statement.

blathnaid21

hot2def wrote: »

good for you


I stand by my statement.

Well then we finely agreed so in the end.:)

hot2def

whatever helps you sleep at night;)