He's gone to New Zealand...

LegacyUser

Hey guys,

I havn't been able to sleep in the past few days and I really need some advice. Im a 22 year old girl. I knew this guy for a while and we'd been flirting over text for a few days. We met up and got along great. Unfrotunately for me, he was planning on going to New Zealand in the following few weesk and while I knew this, I still slept with him. I really liked him and we've kept in touch since he left, however, last week I found out I have herpes and there's a possibility there's worse. I know who gave it to me and it wasn't him. I really feel like I should tell him. He's starting a new life in NZ and I knew he'll be hooking up with girls and I am afraid he'll spread it. I know his brother still lives here and I know him so I could tell him? Or should I just bite the bullet and call him?

I'm really anxious about this. Any advice would be much appreciated

Queencake

Call him. Just explain that when you got screened there it came up and you're waiting for further results and that he should get himself checked out. Don't even think about telling the brother! It's no one's business but yourself and the guy you hooked up with. Also ring the partner you think you got it from and advise him to get checked out as well.

So basically the line of communication on issues such as this should be direct. Don't be anxious hun. These things can happen to anyone.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Why would you tell his brother if you're still in touch with him? Don't even contemplate doing that.

Tell him you have it, tell him to get checked for other stuff and the doctor he goes to will explain how likely it is he caught it from you.

Lollipops23

you have a moral responsibility to tell him as soon as you can. just bite the bullet and do it quick, there less likely he's hooked up with someone else the better!!

Beruthiel

AnxiouslKildare wrote: »

Or should I just bite the bullet and call him?

You have a moral duty to call him asap and tell him. Every moment you delay makes it potentially worse for him.

seamus

Aside from the health issues, if he spreads it in NZ, then the poor guy comes out looking like the dirty bastard who doesn't get checked out and doesn't protect the people he sleeps with.

Call him today, if you can. If you can't, send him an email or a text asking him to call you asap.

Burial

Call him ASAP, and if that fails, tell his brother to tell him to contact you ASAP.

LegacyUser

Hey guys

Thanks for the advice..He has a new number for NZ I think so I might have to ask his brother for it. They're twins so they would be quite close. To be honest I dont think hed get back to me unless he new it was a serious issue..If I got his brother to say something I think it would help. I dont want to say it in an email..

I'm so afraid hes going to go mad at me that im considering just leaving it but then i know hes the type to spread it around...

Queencake

AnxiousKildare wrote: »

Hey guys

Thanks for the advice..He has a new number for NZ I think so I might have to ask his brother for it. They're twins so they would be quite close. To be honest I dont think hed get back to me unless he new it was a serious issue..If I got his brother to say something I think it would help. I dont want to say it in an email..

I'm so afraid hes going to go mad at me that im considering just leaving it but then i know hes the type to spread it around...

Being realistic - yeah he's gonna be angry at you, it'd be a pretty standard reaction. Just ask the brother for his number - say you need to tell the guy something very important. DON'T tell him what it is.

Time to act like a big girl and get the number and ring or as a very very last resort if you can't face it email. Seriously, you need to be responsible.

metrovelvet

Ask for the number, emphasize its important and time sensitive. Deliver the information yourself and don't get someone else to do your dirty work.

Varkov

You should have worn a condom.

But seriously, dont worry about it. He's in NZ and will probabably be meeting other girls. If he does ever get tested and it comes up, theres no way for him to know it was you. No need to tell im IMO.